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What I’ve Learned About Coming Out


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I knew I was gay when I was about 12 maybe 13 but never told anyone until two days after I turned 18. These 5 years were hard as I tried to understand who I was and what being gay meant, as well as trying to comprehend why so many people found it so abhorrent. It's hard to tell anyone, you're always scared that they are going to hate you or make comments about being a fag. But something that I learned is its even harder on you, if you let your feelings and thoughts bottle up inside you, you'll get to a point where you just want to burst.

Although I found it really hard to break the ice and finally tell some of my friends, I made a decision in myself that I wouldn't let anyone's opinion or reaction affect me. If they chose to accept me for who I was, then good for them and me, if not then they weren't all that good of friends anyway. Luckily the first few people I told were great and still remain my best friends today.
It's a great and amazing feeling to have people say that they love you for who you are. Something that I found funny in my whole coming out experience was that many people knew I was gay, before I'd told them and were simply sitting back and waiting for me to feel comfortable to share it with them. I found that people are very accepting, especially your friends. I just make sure the people I hung around and people who I shared things with were loving and caring people.
I think the most important thing I learned in my coming out is that if you actively support others for who they are then they won't hesitate to love you and support for who you are.