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My journey through dealing with my sexuality

My name is Alex. I’m 16 years old, and I am currently in the 11th grade.

When I was born, I was born a 9-pound baby girl name Victoria. And now I’m a 100-pound boy named Alex. I never really felt comfortable with the feminine side of the world; I always stuck with the boy’s side. Everyone told me I’m not transgender; I’m just a “butch lesbian.”  But nobody can tell me who I am. Through my life I have struggled with identity issues, eating disorders, cutting and suicide attempts. It seemed like I had nowhere to turn.

My mom still forced me to be a girl and was against me being bisexual. My first girlfriend wasn’t transgender, but she was partly there and supported me 100%, which is why I will never forget her. I have lost a lot of friends recently who I don’t think I will ever get back, due to my mood swings and never being able to keep someone’s secret. I regret ever doing that to the people I loved the most.

I am still in the process of getting through this, and I am still receiving professional help at the moment. But I plan on coming out to my parents one day, and hopefully they will accept me the way I am.

If you are transgender or anything related to that, keep your head up high! You can be who you want to be, and nobody can ever change you!

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    holly jane love

    your totally awsome. i was born male, i’m 16 now and the past four years of my life i’ve transitioned to become female. if you have questions about hormones or anything like that my email is emogal.pierce329@gmail:disqus .com it’s a tough road ahead but it’s also a beautiful transformation full of life expieriances

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    This is absolutely crazy. Not that you want to be transgender, but the fact that you are me. I am a female (born) and want to become a male. My male name is Alex and my boyfriend knows. I told him when we first started dating about 3 and a half years ago and we are still going strong (he actually helped me pick out the name). I am sure I will never have the surgery to become a “male,” but I do know that I have the support of the person I love. I want so badly to be able to show him the love as a “gay” man, but I know I will never truly be able to do so. The surgery for female-to-male scares the daylights out of me to be honest. I just pray that this one person stays in my life, to keep me strong. Around him I dress in baggy “guy-looking” clothing, but in public I wear eye makeup and skin tight jeans. One day I may be able to walk around and be proud, but for now, him knowing is all that matters.

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