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Standing up for my sexuality

Hey, my name’s Sidney. But some people call me Sid. One known fact bout me is that I’m proud to be a lesbian. I have been in a seven-month relationship with my girlfriend Lindsay.

Now, if there is one thing I think we all have in common, it’s that we all want to be able to love whoever we want.  I used to be the girl who got around to all the guys, until I met Lindsay.  Now, at the time, we were just friends. But over a few weeks, we got closer. She was already a lesbian.

Every time I was around her, I felt something different. Then I started becoming interested in girls. Over a period of time, I became a lesbian.  It just felt right, or natural, is the way to explain it. At the time, I didn’t tell anyone that Lindsay and I were going out. I didn’t have the courage. When I finally told a close friend, the news went all around school.

When my parents and family found out, they did not agree and called me the same names people at school did. My aunt refused to let me see Lindsay. Some people in my family wouldn’t even talk to me. After awhile, my aunt found out I was still seeing Lindsay and kicked me out of my house. Now, you ask, “Wait, what?”

I stayed at Lindsay’s house for a few days. My aunt still did not talk to me or contact me. So, I decided I had to be the one to make the first move. I went to the door step at my house and talked to my aunt. I stood my ground and told her, “This is who I am. If you don’t like it, so be it. I just wish you would look past that. You get to love who you want to love; why can’t I?”

After that, everything was kind of okay. Things at school got way better. Everyone was still shocked, but there was no more name-calling or bad comments. It took time for my family to get used to it, but I defended myself, who I love and what I am. Everything was okay.

My message to you is this: If you go through something like I did, whether you are straight, gay, bi or lesbian, stand up for the one you love and yourself. No one can take away that one fact about yourself, a very simple fact, who you choose to love.

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    AquaMalachite

    You were very brave to go back to yours aunt’s house and tell her off. I would have never step foot there again!

    And I just want to say congrats on getting in a relationship with someone you love. I have NOTHING against gays since I’m bisexual. In fact, I think gay couples are cuter than straight ones.

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    JamieLynnSummers

    I recently found out that I was a lesbian.  My whole school knows, and they all support me.  My parents accepted me, but when they caught me kissing a girl that I was in a relationship with, they got mad.  I was so afraid to tell anyone, but stories like your’s has motivated me to stand up for myself and be who I want to be and who I truly am without having to hide behind lies.

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    MusicJunkie

    I too am a lesbian. I came out my freshman year. Except everyone at school pretty much already knew, along with my family. My dad and two older brothers disowned me. Yeah,it hurts. But it’s their decision. Over the years I’ve accepted it. If they’re going to be stupid and closed minded then so be it. I’m glad you stuck up for yourself. I hope that overtime they accept you for who you are.

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    MusicJunkie

    That must have taken a lot of courage, I too am a lesbian. Everyone at school pretty much already knew and accepted me, along with my family. My dad doesn’t talk to me and my two older brothers want nothing to do with me. But over the years I’ve accepted their decision. It’s hard, but I am who I am. It’s their decision. If they want to be cosed minded and stupid; then so be it. I’m proud of you for sticking up for yourself. Fuck what everyone else thinks. You are who you are. That doesn’t and won’t change. They will look past it and accept you overtime.

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