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On October 20th, 2010, one of my friends at my school took her life. It was a huge tragedy, and it hit our school and community hard. We all stayed strong and got through it together. But, on November 16th, another one of my friends took their life. Things got worse. But, once again, our community came together and helped each other out. We all had a tough time. But, again, once things started to get better, they got worse. On December 2nd, another one of my friends tried to take their life but didn’t succeed. It still was another blow. Our school started to help us out, and we all got through it together once again.

I am posting this because I want people to know they can get through anything, and suicide is not the answer. There are many people who care about you and who are willing to listen. So, please “reach out” and get help.

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    brokenpromise

    ive felt suicidal b4 i even have those “in the kitchen, grab a [...].” feelings ive never known anyone to commit but um people in my school say things like tht and they say it like it’s ok like they can be having a conversation like this.

    A: “hey can u pass me that crayon?”
    B: “no get up and get it your self”
    A: “uh your such a pain in the as!!”
    b: ” i know”
    A: ” shut up and go kill your self”

    and then i just feel like clawing eyes out bc thats so inconsiderate… and hurtful

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      ReachOut

      Hey brokenpromise. That kind of talk is definitely negative, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Some people just don’t realize that. Try not to let it get to you. Have you ever talked to anyone about your suicidal thoughts? We think you should. You don’t have to go through tough stuff alone. Give the Boys Town Hotline a call at 1-800-448-3000.

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    BrokenAngel

    Suicide is a troubling thought…I’ve had it quite a few times. I hope your okay and I hope your friends Rest In Piece,
            Sincerly,
                  BrokenAngel(Rebel)

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    Mark Stocks

    That Is true Suicide is not the anwser

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    maroon5rocks

    well i thought i was going to call but i decided that i should just deal with it on my own and those 5 people deaths were my fault cause i could of stopped it

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      ReachOut

      You have been very brave by commenting here, and expressing your worries and needs. We encourage you to continue to seek help because things can get better for you, and someone dying by suicide is not your fault. We hope you can find the courage to continue to seek help by talking to a professional and to find happiness.

      Best Wishes, The ReachOut Crew

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    maroon5rocks

    i guess i could try it out

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      ReachOut

      Awesome. We hope you do smile

      Best wishes, ReachOut Crew

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    maroon5rocks

    how do i know i cant trust the people on national boys town hotline

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      ReachOut

      The Boys Town National Hotline has trained counselors who are dedicated to helping young people get through issues like depression and suicide. They are experienced, genuinely care and want to help.

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    maroon5rocks

    i appreciate you trying to help but if im feel like hurting myself i wouldnt call

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      ReachOut

      We understand that it can sometimes be difficult to talk with someone you don’t know. But, we do encourage you to talk to a trusted adult about it. You can also online chat or email with counselors at www.yourlifeyourvoice.org

      Please remember that the suicides you have witnessed are not your fault, and that by reaching out for help you are doing an important and brave thing.

      The ReachOut Crew

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    maroon5rocks

    i know how you feel i lost 5 of my very close friends to suicide the first one happened when i was talking to him over facebook he said he as going to kill himself but i thought he was kidding, i still blame myself for his death then 2 of them was at school they did it next to me in class then the other two i should of saw it but i didnt but they were giving their things away but i didnt know that they were suicidal so two days later they both killed themself and i blame myself cause i could of stopped it so now im wondering if i should kill myself

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      ReachOut

      We’re SO sorry to hear of all the loss you have experienced. Losing friends to suicide can bring intense feelings of grief and pain. The reasons people end their life by suicide are often complex and hard to explain. Changes in behavior that leads to suicide can be hard to notice. Even mental health professionals can find it hard to know when a person is particularly at risk. We promise that your friends actions are not your fault. Please try not to blame yourself. This fact sheet may help you understand some of the feelings you’re experiencing:
      http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/when-someone-takes-their-own-life-how-you-might-feel If you feel like hurting yourself it’s important to talk to someone right away. We encourage you to call the National BoysTown Hotline on 1-800-448-3000 for support 24/7. For more tips to stay safe dig in here: http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/wanting-to-end-your-life Thinking of you.  <3 The ReachOut Crew

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    Lifegetsbetter:)

    I called tonight. It helped me so much. I felt alone, weird, like nobody liked me. But I knew that life did get better. I cut, had thoughts of suicide, but I never did it. Until tonight. I cut myself angrily. I couldn’t take it.  But ReachOut helped me conquer that. smile

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      ReachOut

      Hey there, we are so happy to know that Reachout was able to help you. Letting folks in and accepting help is a major break through! We are here to help and knowing that Reachout was able to do that for you is great! Keep up the good work and stay in touch anytime you need support. We care about you and are thinking of you! The Reachout Crew

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    BabyDoll787

    I am so sorry for your loss. <3

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    joex85

    How do I reach out when everyone around me thinks lowly of me? When the ones I do reach and grab begin to get “brainwashed” by the ones around me? I almost died May 27, 2010 from a Traumatic Brain Injury.. I struggle day to day with severe anger and aggression because of what I was diagnosed with, Post Traumatic Stress disorder (PTSd). I feel like it doesn’t matter who gets involved, they all eventually tend to not see the actual problem in me. My question is. When is it my time to shine and have my voice heard? It’s tearing me up inside. Each day I draw nearer..

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      ReachOut

      Hey There,
      This sounds pretty serious Joe. Even though it seems like folks don’t understand please continue to reach out. You are brave to make this contact and we are here for you! You can get help right away by calling the Boy’s Town Hotline at 1 800 448-3000. There is someone there 24/7 you can talk to and they will understand. If you want there is also on line e-mail and live chat at http:/www.yourlifeyourvoice.org. You might also think of reading some of the “Real Stories” written by young folks who have been through the same kinds of things you are going through.  Know that we are thinking of you and care about what you are going through .Keep working to make your voice heard!  Please stay in touch.
      The Reachout Crew

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    LoveisLouder101

    I’m so sorry.  I know what its like to lose people and losing three would be heart-breaking.  I hope you’re doing better.  :D

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    ray1104

    i think about killin myself every day about a month ago im disabled badly an theres no cure so ik i wont ever be happy i just need to work up the courage an end my life

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      RO_Admin

      Hi there. We’re sorry you are feeling so low and desperate right now that you want to end your life. We hope you will consider reaching out to the BoysTown National Hotline either by phone or email (they also have scheduled time to chat, too). You can do it anonymously and can talk to someone who can help you get through this really tough time you’re having. We’re thinking of you, and care about you.

      The ReachOut Crew

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    Memyselfandi

    I… I’m really not sure what to say… I feel shocked at how horrible people can be to other people.

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    12dyer

    i have attempted many times but those were silly compulses  of anger , but my last 2 atempts amd most current wernt cause of anger well the 1st partially but the second of deppression lonein ess  anger at my self those last 2 times even tho my famliy dosnt no they dont even  no im doin it and its better they dont kno i was mintues away from passin  out and stranglin my self i kno its wrong but my deppression thinks it right

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      ReachOut

      Hey there -
      Depression, anger, and loneliness are powerful emotions that can really drag you down. But we think you know that and feel that. Whatever is causing this hurt can get better and you can reach out for help. That may seem difficult, but help is closer than you think. Please give the Boystown National Hotline a call - they are available to help and listen anonymously, 24/7 at 1-800-448-3000. Please give them a call.
      The ReachOut Crew

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    sania niaz

    I almost did something like that,but listening to my friends it helped me get through the bullying i went through.i feel bad for u.

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    immamakeit

    i have thought about it several times. but each time i do my mind wonders to my lil sibs and how they need me. how i wouldnt want them to be affected by the pain i feel. i go by ever day thinking i can do this and i will grow and be something better some day. its amazing how my lil sibs, how they can just motivate me to keep my feet planted. i owe it all to them:) 

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    Cheerbridget98

    well i almost drowned myshelf because i didnt want to live nomore but all friend went in and got me even half of them didnt even know how to swim and they got in and wasnt scryed and they sat there and talked to me and now we are very close

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      ReachOut

      Hey there-we’re glad that you had brave friends to help you through your tough time. It sounds like you have a good a support system with them, but if you ever start to feel that way again, be sure to talk about it with your friends or call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000, available 24/7 or live chat with them at https://secure.yourlifeyourvoice.org/YLYV_Chat.

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    Matker2

    Im not a teenager i was though suicidal since i was 13. i tried many times to kill myself but nothing seemed to work. I do feel that they didnt work because maybe i was not suppose to die not yet.I did take it as a sign.I do still struggle with it even now as an adult.

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      ReachOut

      Hang in there. If you ever feel you need to speak with someone, please do call the Boys Town National Hotline. They are available 24/7 for help and support. 1-800-448-3000.

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    tooyoungforallofthis

    I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Suicide is said to be selfish, because of what it does to the people who commit it around them. But personally I don’t see it that way. I do see it as a huge issue, that many teens today thing is an answer. Kids who are too young to understand what forever really is, give it away in a heartbeat simply because they do not know what else to do or have anyone they can feel like they can go to.
    When I was in 7th grade, a good friend took her life. It was something that i saw effect my friends, fellow students, and my entire grade (faculty included) in a very negative way. Through counseling and school support my class got through this difficult time.
    But I still think back to that year all of the time. I really think that the support of the school, and parents of my peers are what helped get a lot of kids through her death.Sadly, one of my friends was never the same. 
    Seeing such things at such a young age helped put life into perspective for me though.
    Thats why I always smile at strangers, put quarters in empty parking meters, and try to go out of my way to make friends with someone who looks like they could just use someone to talk to.
    Its amazing how the little things can mean the world to someone in that state.

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    Cjfinkel

    i once had suicidal thoughts but then i thought how much it would destroy my family if i followed through so i decided to go to the counsuler to talk. it got better now i m happy

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    vanilla snow

    I think about suicide every night and day, no one understands me… who I am, what i’ve been through. When I walk into the kitchen and see a knife, I think that i can kill myself, im ready to go, make the pain go away. But i know i cant. Im sick of people who make fun of me because im smart or because they think there better than me, or because they think im not pretty. Im fed up with it. My friend, or used to be friend, cuts herself. No one else knows besides me.Its wrong but its how she copes. I guess all i can say, is i’ve been there. 

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    KeiannaLush

    . . . it gets me sooo mad when people are getting picked on and the people around them dont do anything about it . . .

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    Winter Sykes

    I have tried to kill myself twice and i didnt have self control , i would do whatever to harm myself
    i have gotton addicted to drugs and get stressed out when i dont have it , i am in counsling but i
    am getting better day by day its not easy to just harming yourself , but i wish it was. i am happy
    that i didnt succeed giving up my life because i have a whole life in head of me.

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    ...

    it seems impossible sometimes. i used to cut, but i stopped because i realized i needed help, not to make things worse. the scars aren’t gone, but they remind me of my slow recovery. i feel bad still and want to turn back to it, but i will never again because while i did it i felt good, but after, i crashed and felt tired and defeated. i dont like to, but im taking meds now. i guess i feel the same sense of defeat there…

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    C Burke21

    i like this story it made me realize that i should have reached out better

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    Princesslexy97

    theyre rite! suicide is definately not the answer! if u ever have some type of issue in life talk it out with someone you really trust because ending your life is ending alot of other people’s happiness! u dont want to be remembered as the person who left this world leaving everyone depressed and heart-broken!

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    Superstar14

    I was my school helped as much as yours did mone did nothing and we have soo many suicidal kids like me that I see

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      ReachOut

      We are really sorry to hear that things are so stressful for so many at your school - and for you too. Please, if you are feeling suicidal, reach out to the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. They are available 24/7 just to listen and help. Please give it a try!
      The ReachOut Crew

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    TheHeavensAngel2

    Your a brave girl.

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    Brand new eyes

    Wow…almost all of those dates are atleast a birthday of people I know, and thank you for the story. It really helped me and im still trying to..well help myself. My parents dont seem to care much about me and my friends wont listen to me…no matter how many times I tell them

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      ReachOut

      you are a strong person and i hope you do okay. if you feel like no one cares, remember, things will get better. i know it sounds stupid, but i am living proof.

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    Adalis_

    I Wanted To Die.. I Tried Everying…My Mom Caught Me &^ Grabbed Me Nd I Started Crying. &^ Said ” WHY DID YOU DO THAT” I Want To Be dead I Told MY MOm That there was somekids buullying me nd ruining my life….

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    Guest

    I had a similar thing happen to me when I was in 8th grade. Two girls I knew took their lifes just two months in between and it was really hard. It still is hard some days but finally, after two years, I think I can say I have accepted it.

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    Caityy<3

    I’ve tried to kill myself 3 times now.. once in 3rd grade, once in 6th, and once before 8th grade year… the time before 8th grade year was due to the death of my girlfriend.. she was beaten, raped, and abused by her stepfather.. and when it got to be too much for her, she took her own life… it was such a hard time for me, but I’m just here to say that it DOES get better and suicide is NOT the answer. suicide hurts so many people, and it will forever leave a scar on those who have to deal with another person’s suicide..
    Remember that you are loved<3

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    Lily

    I was diagnosed with depression last December. My mom made my doctor put me get on medication to help. I didn’t like the thought that pills could fix me and make me into a different person, even if that person could handle life. The pills just made the suicidal thoughts worse though. When I saw my doctor again I told her I stopped taking the pills because they didn’t help. She told my mom to have me see a therapist. Finally in the middle of March, my mom took me to see a therapist. After my first appointment my therapist decided that I needed to see her twice a week. With my therapy I started to begin the stage of recovery. By May, my therapist discussed with my mom that I could move to therapy once a week. I was a little rocky over that but I still continued to make progress. When summer hit though, my mom told me that I couldn’t take therapy anymore because it was too expensive and I didn’t need it anymore.  My dad is the just below vice president of his department at a nationwide bank, we could afford it. Anyway, I’ve tried suicide twice this summer and with the new school year coming up I’m not sure I can handle it. I’m going to be a sophomore in high school and I’m sure its going to be harder than last year. I’m also not sure if I can stay away from the bad crowds. Is there any advice for my situation?</p>

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      heretohelp

      Stay strong<3 Read everyone elses comments. You aren’t alone!

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    Cindy Ocampo

    wow,I also almost took my own life. I thank god everyday for letting me live but i know that choice was up to me.

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    Sukii511

    On January 18th my friends son took his own life. He was bullied beyond belief. This boy could have had a bright future, but no thanks to the nasty kids who harrassed this beautiful boy - he is no longer with us.His family lives have forever been destroyed.  My way of thinking about life has forever changed. Please see Kameron Jacobsen’s story  www.kindnessabovemalice.org    I hope that Kam’s story can help some of you before it is to late.   Thanks Sue

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    Custer Darla

    Please, from a parent who lost her 22 year old son to suicide, please if you are thinking of hurting yourself or you are depressed please reach out for help. My son ended his life on Dec. 25, 2009.
    My son was a fun, loving, talented young man but something got him. He told me 2 wks prior that he thought he was bi-polor but would not go to the Dr. His sister was with him Christmas Eve morning & they laughed & talked about old times. There were no signs that he would ever do anything like this. He even had a friend that took her life a few months prior & he said he would never do anything like that.
    I miss my son so much. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t cry for him. I will never no why he did what he did.
    If you are thinking about this—please reach out for help—and think about those who are left behind that love you.
    May my son Rest in Peace.   

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    Miranda

    i tried to cut myself to death but one boy who is best friend threw the knife away from me then hugged me and he listioned to me talk about what was wrong hes a true friend and the main reason was bullies

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      ReachOut

      You really do have an amazing friend! and i completely understand your position too! but i am soo happy he was there for you! you deserve to live! no matter what, there will always be someone who loves you!

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      ReachOut

      It is so good to hear that you have such a good friend. Yet we are very sorry to hear that you have been bullied (and maybe still are being bullied?). While the help of a good friend can make you strong against harsh things that are done and said to you, we wonder if that help is sufficient? You might also want to think about sharing what is happening to you with an adult in your life whom you trust and who might intervene to get the bullies to stop. We wish you well and are wrapping our arms around you too in a big hug. Hang in there!
      The ReachOut Crew

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    KayKay:]

    That Must Have Been Awful For You And Your Community! I Hope EveryThing Is Okay Do A Days! 

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    Longsamantha Long

    i hope ur ok

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