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My story of coming out as transgender

It’s hard living as a transgender person in a world where harassers roam free. But I live as myself, regardless of everyone else’s standards.

I am Joe.  I am into video games and card games and the usual thing for a nerdy, 16-year-old boy. But on top of that, I am transgender. I was born with this female body. But in mind and emotion, I am fully male. I don’t see it as that big of a deal, but unfortunately others do.

Being trans in high school has to be one of the toughest things because on top of academic responsibility, your social life needs to be looked over. I believe this goes for everyone. But it’s exceptionally hard to deal with when people can’t just accept you for who you are. According to society, abnormal just isn’t right, and though I don’t do anything to purposefully make anyone upset with me, I am still dealing with a lot of harassment. My other trans friends say that’s why they didn’t come out in high school.

Aside from my friends, my belief system helps me get along, despite everything that is happening to me. I do not believe in fake people, and acting like a girl and dressing like one would make me fake.  It’s just not me. So, despite the bullying and abuse, I am me. And that makes me incredibly happy. Anyone who can’t deal with that is weak and has no idea how great it is to simply embrace life.

No matter what you deal with, no matter how hard it seems, you have never lost yourself until you can’t flow with who you are.

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    tomorrowwillalwaysbebetter

    You are extremely brave for posting this for everyone to see. I truly admire you for this. Even though I do not know you, I actually see you as an inspiration.
    More people should look up to someone like you who can be themselves no matter what anyone says.

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    haileyann

    I look up to people like you that are going to be themselves no matter what anyone says.

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    emmaw221

    i know how you feel with haveing a friend like that she would come home crying because of being bullied about it. you are very strong about this.

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    Memyselfandi

    dude just stay strong and happy. Eventually you’ll live in a free world…

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    Sameoldhaylee

    Im so proud of you! You are brave keep being yourself!(: xoxo

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    Free-Faller95

    I feel your pain. I am considered different. And at my school, different is wrong. People are afraid of difference, it just scares them. So they put on an act for their friends and make up crude names and giggle when you pass by. I’ve always had trouble fitting in.. I tried to fit in and I didn’t realize how far I was drifting away from myself.. I got bullied and laughed at pushed around and harassed. I’ve had a harsh life.. Being the 26th foster child and the second child adopted along with my older sister… I don’t know who my real parents are.. But I live. Things took a turn and one my best friends turned out to be bisexual.. She anted to go out with me… Thanks to her, I discovered i’m bisexual. I like girls and guys. I only tell people I know I can trust. But people at school found out and started rumors and I found my name on one of the picnic tables outside and next to it read, “(my name/last name) is a fag.” And it pissed me off. I just scribbled over it. Found a corner in the restroom and just curled in a ball and cried… I have so many stories and I’m only now speaking out.. Because I have people that understand what I’ve been through. People that want to listen. And Alex… If I knew you or went to school with you.. On the first day.. You’d be the first person I walk up to and engage in a conversation. One of my best friends is transgender. As long as your yourself and not someone else, I’ll be here for you as a friend or just someone who understands. =) (sorry the comment is so long…)

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    Krystal

    wow thats amazing,thanks for sharing and i for one would never judge you on your appearance

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    idunno bwaha

    Everyone who gives you a hard time about you being who you are aren’t worth your time.You’ll have your true friends there with you,having your back.I’m 14 but not transgender so i’m not really sure how bad it must feel i’m a girl but i hate those itchy blouses&dresses so i can kinda relate,guess you can call me a tomboy.But I do have transgender friends&I love and care for them like I would anyone else.They aren’t freaks or weirdos they’re just themselves.Hope those mean people leave you alone&focus on their own lives instead of yours!(:

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    brielynn16@gmail.com

    i love this so much. you are way more stronger than ii could ever be. so much respect to you(: xoxo Brie <3

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    Jay O.

    You are strong and is definitely my inspiration.

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    Letty

    Hi Alex, i know this may be hard for you to deal with, & yes during the time of high its hard for anyone to come out. My thing is, you did it for a reason, you felt really comfortable to let your self be free. I believe since you have spoken out with positive words, others just like you who may be dealing with the same thing who are having trouble dealing with there own issues. Your a step further in helping someone over come such a hard time in there life. I can give you a massive 10 thumbs up for what you have done. You are who you are, & that makes you beautiful no matter what you decide in life. “I always say reach for the stars & smile always” my quote for you.. 

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    StayRealBabe

    You inspire me so much. and quite frankly your story  reminds me of my friend. <3 Even if there are people out there that disagree with it, just know there are many people that support you one hundred percent. You deserve to be happy no matter what sex you are. I’m happy for you. Thanks for being an inspiration to many. It truely means alot.

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    Kianna Price

    I think that you are a very strong person for standing up and being you. I am not gay or transgender and I want to let you know that some of us do have hearts and you have very good friends if they support you.

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    Maggie

    “Be who you are, and be that well.” I wish you the best of luck smile

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    Renesemee Millice

    I admire you alot and i also admire that you can stay true and faithful to yourself. 

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    Renesemee Millice

    I admire how strong you are and i truely admire that u stay yourself when people tell u not to be. i wish that i could be that strong 

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    cassie

    you are a strong person inside and out!

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    DyingSoul

    Wow. I really respect you, I wish I was as confident about myself, as you are about yourself. I wouldn’t be able to leave the house if I were you, but you do it - I mean, the fact that I don’t leave the house because of my confident issues aside that is. I guess Im a noob in my own way wink I wish I was as awesome as you. xx

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    Zak22 Zs

    Your one tough kid. Regular teens like me have to deal with parents and rules. You have to deal with societies outlook. Man keep on trucking!

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    NyanCatGH

    i think its awesome tht you know who you are, and don’t let others get to you. you are, from what i have read, a strong and amazing person. smile

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    Tui

    Be strong ain’t any thing in this world is easy even being normal people still face diffecultys which makes both of us the same I’m a transsexual for fifteen hrs of my life I’ve being laught at criticize at verbally abuse at most of all admired by the public during gay festival it made me stronger and realize that there is a good life in stored for in if only I have to turn from all of this and turn to god coz his the only one who you can trust and fulfill this misery life and make it real all this tranny fantasy life will fade away but god will remain the same ...so try god my fren ..look for him by buying a bible god bless.

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    AndrewLloydWebber

    Thank you for posting this. As a 17 year old trans guy, it really helps to hear that I’m not alone.

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    ongoldenwings

    I so very much commend you to be who you are.  I once worked with a gay guy who ended up committing suicide, as his family would not accept him.  I say to those who struggle within, to be who they are.  One’s decision to what they do, is not something i should criticize, it is not up to me. 
    You are such a strong person, again i respect you for that, standing your ground.  I so wish you the best
    with love
    a mom, and a grandmother who would have no choice, but to accept, if one of my children should  make such a decision. 

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    Nevada

    Have you ever read the novel Luna? It’s about a transgender boy from his sister’s point of view. I don’t remember the author, but that book helped me better understand a friend and it’s a very touching story. It’s a great story about finding who you really are and could help many teens be more accepting. I think you should read it.

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    Brittanyyyy

    smile , your awesome.  i hope you realize that. your so strong and you aren’t afraid. everybody is so judge mental , i just don’t understand! YOU RULE THE WORLD! and its people like you who give others inspiration and confidence! 

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    Momoney1212

    I’m totally with u. Ur in a hard situation, but u r a really strong person.

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    Alwaysmad1

    I Think That Yhur Rite All Those People That Tease Yhu Are ApparetllyScared Or HATIIN On Yhu So Diis What Yhu Should Tell All Yhur HATERS Fall DA Fukk Bakk!!!!!!!

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    Tiaporter47

    i think you’re a really strong person for someone with this situation.

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    amaka

    i wish i was 1% a strong as you the fact is im a fake liveing as a fake people think im me im not ill never be the things i do i have no reason for the things i think i cant explan your story no your thought are nice thank you i may only be 15 but it feels like ive felt the cold shoulder of the world
                                   
                                      a.u

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      Letty

      Amaka, your are strong. You can stand up and face many things in your life. You just got to be positive & always have faith. When you are dealing with something negative in your life, think of something positive, tell yourself that “you are beautiful & kind, your are the sun in my life, your are the air i breathe & i know im loving & i can be all things i want to be” Repeat that to yourself, look in the mirror & repeat as many time as you can..Your not alone =) 

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      ReachOut

      Thanks for your comment. Figuring out “who” we are maybe one of the biggest challenges that teens face! You are not alone! You may want to check these fact sheets on negative self-talk (http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/challenging-negative-self-talk  and challenging negative emotions (http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/express-yourself. It may also help to talk to someone you trust like a friend, family member or counselor/teacher about it too. Sometimes it takes other people to show us who we really are.
      ReachOut Crew

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