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Dealing with harassment from my “best friend”

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Responding when my “best friend” started hitting me

Hi, my name’s Jessica.  I’m in middle school. I’m also in high-honors classes and man, do I go through best friends quickly. It’s not my fault; they just find other people whom they would rather be with. No big deal, I guess. Just got to learn to move on.

My best friend and I were close. She had other best friends too, though. We used to make fun of each other, joking of course, and would call each other names. Before I knew what was going on, her joking voice disappeared, and she began to hit me. Once, when I had cramps, she punched me flat in the stomach. When we were at lunch, and I patted her head as a joke, she punched me in the eye. I felt worthless to her.

However, I had other friends I could look up too. I found comfort in one other friend, and I stuck with her for a while. Soon, she grew to be my best friend. She showed me that I deserved better. I talked it out with my friend, and she said she was sorry. I didn’t forget what she did, but I forgave her.

No matter what happened, there was always someone else who was there for me. There’s not just one person in this world who gets you.  There’s a bunch.

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    PinkFluffyUnicorns101

    I’ve Been experiencing some problems with my friend. i won’t say her name but i’m just tired of the abuse. i talked to her before but i don’t think she understood me. it’s like what i told her didn’t matter. she didn’t care. she hits everyone but she acts like she can do whatever she wants to me. i thought things were going to be different after talking to her. now my friends say things like “you’re probably scared of her” and make jokes saying she’s going to slap me for being absent or for not doing something right just so they can manipulate me into doing what they want. i’m depressed and they don’t help. i know i’m not a saint, but they haven’t exactly been the best friends lately….i can’t wait til i go to high school because i know they’re going to a different one next year!

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    Mistifer Taylor

    i have a very good friend. her best friend is abusing her, slapping her, saying mean things about me and her, and just being plain awful. i dont feel alone anymore!

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      ReachOut

      Hi -
      So sorry to hear about your friend. We hope you are able to provide some support to her and encouragement that she does not have to put up with this kind of treatment. If you are there for her, it will be easier for her to speak up for herself. Have you let her know of your concerns?
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Selena98

    Forgiveness isn’t necessarily for the person who harmed you, it’s for yourself more than anything. It allows you to let go of what happened and move on. Otherwise, you’re stuck in a bad place feeling awful while the other person has already forgotten you. It took me three years to realize that. And forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to trust that person nor does it mean you have to give them another chance, it’s just letting go of your resent toward that person.

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    Anonymous

    I had 2 best friends who over time and presently, are completely ignoring me and leaving me out (also really obviously). I also cant admit their directly bullying me because its so indirect. I even tried to talk to my closer one of the two and she ignored the whole matter, making me angry, sad, depressed and lonely. I seriously have no other friends that I can talk to now, and mainly because of this, I was just diagnosed with depression. They both are still constantly excluding me from everything, so I really hope I meet someone new and caring!

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      ReachOut

      Hi there -
      We are so sorry that this is happening to you. It sounds like you have spoken up and gotten some help which is so important. We wonder what you might be trying as a way to make some new friends? You might want to check out the tips on this ReachOut fact sheet on meeting new people http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/meeting-new-people. We hope this helps.
      Thinking of you!!!
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Saffia Niro

    Me and my friends always make fun of each other for fun (joking). We try to knock each other down and keep each other down on their back for at least 3 seconds, reading this, I realize it could go even further. One of my friends felt close enough to me, she told me that what one of my other friends said to her hurt, even if it was a joke. After this we made a rule to not tease each other anymore, even if it is just joking around. We don’t try hurting each other anymore either. Thank you!

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    SJC.P

    Wow, I wonder what even made her want to harm you seriously, instead of joking around. I’m surprised that you forgave her. I would’ve held a grudge and been really angry if that were me. At least you have class and dignity. Glad you found a new best friend to be with. :D

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    tiara

    God middle school sucked bad enough but thats terrible! glad you have better friends now

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