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    Losing my Virginity

    I am 16 and lost my virginity to my already sexualy active boyfriend. We didn't use protection and I took the pill before the 3 days, but I've been emotional the past week since it happened. He has also been distant and for some reason like I said I'm emotional and I have been non stop crying about everything. Am I pregnant? Or is this normal? Please help me..

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    Welcome to ReachOut flowergirl! We're all so glad to have you here!

    It sounds like you're having some concerns about the way you've been feeling this week. I'm really sorry that you've been experiencing this stress, and I just want you to know that we're all here for you! Take a deep breath, and try to relax.

    It's not uncommon to feel emotional after sex, specially after your first time. I can see that your boyfriend has been a bit distant as well. Do you feel that you can open up and talk with him? Communication is such a helpful tool in any relationship that can help to strengthen that bond, as well as help with solving problems. I've got a few helpful fact sheets that I'm going to link up for you below. I hope you can take a few moments to check them out.

    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bo...anic_companion
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...your-virginity
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...-contraception
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...-communication

    Pregnancy isn't really something that can be determined over the internet, and we're not medical professionals here. It may be a bit too early at this point, but after your first missed period, a pregnancy test will have the most accuracy. You can have a test done with your doctor, at your local family planning clinic, or by picking an at home test up from your local drug store or pharmacy.

    In the meantime, try to take some moments each day to relax. Activities like writing, watching a favorite movie or TV show, reading a book, taking walks, working on something artistic or crafty, or meditation are all examples of things that you may find helpful. Another thing you can do is talk with someone that you trust. Is there someone in your life that you can think of? Maybe a family member or other trusted adult come to mind.

    We're all here for you!
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    That's the thing he is being so distant. He won't answer my text and now his ex is all over his account commenting and stuff again 😐 I don't know why he is ignoring me but it hurts. ..

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    Hello flowergirl,

    Goodness, I'm sure it really does hurt, and I'm so sorry that he's being so distant right now. Being ignored is a cruddy feeling, and if he's not open to talking at this point, unfortunately, you can't force it. How about taking this time to focus on processing your feelings as well as finding a place of peace within yourself? If you have a friend or family member that you can turn to for some support, and to talk with, that can be helpful as well.

    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...meone-can-help

    You deserve to be treated with respect, and kindness. I hope you can remember that. We're here for you!
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    hi I'm 15years old and I've been talking to this boy for a while now we've talked about having sex I feel ready I haven't lost my virginity but he's sexually active I need advice

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyboo View Post
    hi I'm 15years old and I've been talking to this boy for a while now we've talked about having sex I feel ready I haven't lost my virginity but he's sexually active I need advice
    Welcome to ReachOut babyboo! We’re all so glad that you’ve joined us here today!

    It sounds like you’ve been putting some thought into having sex for the first time, and have been talking about it with someone you feel that you’d like to share that experience with. Having that open line of communication is great, and I’m glad to see that you’re talking so openly. Do you feel that you could discuss some of the concerns or thoughts you may be having?


    I’m including a few helpful bits of reading material below that I think you’ll find beneficial if you take some time to look them over.
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...your-virginity
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...out-having-sex
    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/re...ness_checklist
    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/se...ntercourse_101

    I hope this helps! Come back and let us know if you have any questions after checking those resources I left you! We’re always willing to listen! We’re here for you!
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    Hi I'm 16 I'm a guy I just need advice I lost my virginity 2 nights ago and the girl I lost it to was not a virgin but that doesn't matter to me, we used protection but it just felt weird I mean the whole experiance was hot but I've been thinking about all of it and is sex supposed to feel weird afterwards? And also she kept telling me "your giving me more pleasure than I'm giving you arnt you?" Idk I am in love with her, but is there anyway to tell she feels the same? She told me she loved me while we were doing it but could that just be like those movies where their just in the moment? I'm just so confused about all of it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Typhron View Post
    Hi I'm 16 I'm a guy I just need advice I lost my virginity 2 nights ago and the girl I lost it to was not a virgin but that doesn't matter to me, we used protection but it just felt weird I mean the whole experiance was hot but I've been thinking about all of it and is sex supposed to feel weird afterwards? And also she kept telling me "your giving me more pleasure than I'm giving you arnt you?" Idk I am in love with her, but is there anyway to tell she feels the same? She told me she loved me while we were doing it but could that just be like those movies where their just in the moment? I'm just so confused about all of it
    Hello Typhron, and welcome to ReachOut! Were all glad to have you here with us today!

    It sounds like you’re processing your feelings after having sex for the first time. It’s not uncommon to feel different after sex with all of the emotions that are involved. How about talking with your girlfriend about it, including the feelings you’re going through right now. Having that open line of communication can be really helpful to strengthen the bond of your relationship, as well as help to solve any problems that may come up.

    I’ve included a few fact sheets below that I think you’ll find beneficial to read over.
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...your-virginity
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...e-to-sex-myths
    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/se...ntercourse_101
    http://us.reachout.com/facts/factshe...-communication

    I want you to know that we are all here for you!
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    Hi flowergirl98 I know exactly how you feel! I just lost my virginity last night. I'm 17 and I lost my virginity to a 27-year-old... Physically are you okay? Did he hurt you in any way? Losing your virginity can/is an emotional experience that can traumatic or amazing. I came home last night in a daze because of all the emotions I was experiencing. I started to cry in my driveway and I had no idea why, I still really don't. Processing this experience is going to take time and I'm here for you! It's okay to be emotional and I'm sorry your bf has been distant. If you're worried about being pregnant go to a store and buy a pregnancy test or the nearest planned parenthood to get help. Sex can be amazing but it has an emotional component that everyone forgets to mention. Do not feel pressured to have sex again, try it when you feel ready emotionally and physically. Also if your bf hasn't started talking to you agian, he's an as*hole. You deserve someone who will comfort and help you as best as the can. I hope this helped!

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    Hi Jessdance15!

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