Suicidal Thoughts:

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger,
get help here now or call 911.
If you are suicidal, do not post here. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger of harming yourself or others. Your needs are better served by a crisis service like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline on 1800 273 8255. If you are feeling suicidal, know that there are people that care about you and you can make it.

If you are not suicidal but are writing about suicide, review the Community Guidelines here to make sure you're following them.
Learn more about suicide here or read real stories about suicide.

If this is something you are dealing with, we are here to tell you that you can get help, and with time and support you can begin to let go of self-harming and feel better. Because you are reading this here on the forums, you are a person who is curious and capable of getting help

Self harm can be a way to cope with strong feelings or the sense of numbness or emptiness that overwhelming feelings can cause. It might express your anger, sadness, grief or emotional pain or might be a way you indirectly signal to others that you want support. It might be a way you remind yourself that you can still feel, or give you a sense of control. Every one has a unique reason they use self harm to cope, and every reason is important to pay attention to.

Deliberate self harm can bring an immediate sense of relief, but the relief will only be temporary. It can cause permanent damage to your body, and like many habits, the sense of relief may last for less time as the body grows accustomed to the sensations. Using self harm to cope might be like a heavy secret that you feel you have to keep from others.

At first you might find you will continue to use self harm to cope. That’s ok, but make sure to stay safe and reach out for help immediately if you are in any danger. You might find you just want to consider how to stop or slow down, but not yet be ready to stop altogether. This forum is a safe place to talk to talk about your feelings that are creating the urges.

If you are self-harming right now we strongly encourage you to talk about with a trained counselor at youth helpline Your Life Your Voice on 1800 448 3000. We want you to stay safe and you deserve to feel better. In the meantime, feel free to read on and allow whatever is useful to you here to add to your feeling of being supported. Ultimately you might want to work through your feelings in counseling (see treatment and support options here).

Please follow up on helpful information and resources suggested to you by moderators and other community members.
Learn more about self-harm on the website here, or read real stories about self-harm.

Please note: some content in this section may be upsetting
The content in this section may be upsetting. Any user who posts content suggesting they are at risk, or need professional support urgently, are referred to crisis services and receive offline communications. If you have any concerns, you can reach us at

The forum is moderated, so your post will not show up right away. Review the Community Guidelines before posting. Still have questions about what to post? View getting started.