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Leaving home

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Getting prepared to leave home

Many people eventually leave the home they grew up in and find a home of their own.  However, everyone is different, and some people leave home when they are very young. Others wait till they are in their 30s, and some people live with their family all their lives.

Reasons for leaving home

There are many reasons why people think about moving away from home. Often people first think about leaving home if they are in conflict with their parents. Sometimes the thought of leaving seems easier than resolving the conflict. For others, the need for more space or privacy might make them think about leaving. Sometimes, people move away from home in order to go to school, get a job, move, get married or live with a partner.

What if my parents don’t want me to move out?

Some families believe that their children should only move out when they are married or have their own property. Some parents might feel rejected or worry that other people might think of them as bad parents.  Of course, most of the time, this has nothing to do with why someone wants to move out.

Leaving home

When you begin to plan leaving home, it is a good idea to think through the consequences, as well as your needs. Here are some things to think about when deciding to leave home.

Finding a place to live

If you are 18 or older and have a stable income, you can probably either move into shared housing with friends or look into renting your own place. If you are younger than 18, you might find that it is difficult to rent a house or sign a lease because of your age. In that case, you may have to an adult (parent, relative, other friend) who would cosign a lease with you. This means they share with you the ultimate responsibility for seeing that the property is taken care of and that you are paying your rent on time.

Leaving home because of conflict

If you are leaving home because of family conflict or abuse, you might be able to stay at a shelter.

Do I have enough money to support myself?

Work out a budget to see how much money you need each month to pay the rent and buy what you need—including food and utilities like electricity, gas and water. It also good to think about saving some extra money for emergencies.

Who would support me in making the move?

Leaving home is often easier if your family will assist and support you in making the move. If your immediate family will not support you, you might have friends or relatives who will.

Where to Next?



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    hi I am 18 and this year after getting to college I want to move to my own house because I have a crowded family(6)and these days I really feel like I need my own privacy but my parents are a bit strict and love me too much to let go in the other hand I sometimes feel like living alone for a 18 years old girl could be dangerous but I can’t stand it here what do you suggest?

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      That can be so frustrating, to be crowded in with your family.  Even if they’re great, a person needs some privacy.

      Probably you’ll want to really work on establishing your own income, so you’re able to support yourself apart from them and whatever they choose to offer to you.  When they see that you’re more independent and confident, letting go might be easier.

      Good luck!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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