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Getting prepared to leave home
Many people eventually leave the home they grew up in and find a home of their own. However, everyone is different, and some people leave home when they are very young. Others wait till they are in their 30s, and some people live with their family all their lives.
Reasons for leaving home
There are many reasons why people think about moving away from home. Often people first think about leaving home if they are in conflict with their parents. Sometimes the thought of leaving seems easier than resolving the conflict. For others, the need for more space or privacy might make them think about leaving. Sometimes, people move away from home in order to go to school, get a job, move, get married or live with a partner.
What if my parents don’t want me to move out?
Some families believe that their children should only move out when they are married or have their own property. Some parents might feel rejected or worry that other people might think of them as bad parents. Of course, most of the time, this has nothing to do with why someone wants to move out.
When you begin to plan leaving home, it is a good idea to think through the consequences, as well as your needs. Here are some things to think about when deciding to leave home.
Finding a place to live
If you are 18 or older and have a stable income, you can probably either move into shared housing with friends or look into renting your own place. If you are younger than 18, you might find that it is difficult to rent a house or sign a lease because of your age. In that case, you may have to an adult (parent, relative, other friend) who would cosign a lease with you. This means they share with you the ultimate responsibility for seeing that the property is taken care of and that you are paying your rent on time.
Leaving home because of conflict
If you are leaving home because of family conflict or abuse, you might be able to stay at a shelter.
Do I have enough money to support myself?
Work out a budget to see how much money you need each month to pay the rent and buy what you need—including food and utilities like electricity, gas and water. It also good to think about saving some extra money for emergencies.
Who would support me in making the move?
Leaving home is often easier if your family will assist and support you in making the move. If your immediate family will not support you, you might have friends or relatives who will.
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