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How talking to someone can help

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Talking about your concerns can give a different perspective

Are you having a rough day? Have you been feeling down for a while? Everyone goes through tough times, and no matter how long you’ve had something on your mind-whether for just a few hours or months-it’s important that you talk to someone about it. You don’t have to confront your setbacks alone. Here are a few of the benefits of talking to someone about how you’re feeling.

Sort through your feelings. Talking about your feelings can help you make sense of them. Sometimes, just verbalizing what is upsetting you to someone you trust can help you sort through your feelings, or make the situation clearer.

Put things in perspective. If you’ve been keeping things to yourself, a situation seem more overwhelming than it actually is. The person you talk with might help you see the situation in a new or different perspective. Someone outside the situation might also be more neutral about what’s going on because the outcome won’t affect him or her personally. The person you speak with might also suggest options that you had not thought about before.

Release tension. Talking through your concerns can also be a great way to vent and release pent-up tension. Just “getting the problem out” can help you feel better. Not only does it feel great, but it can also give you new insights into what’s happening in your life.

Who should I talk with? Deciding who you want to talk to is an important first step. It’s important that you can trust the person you decide to speak with. You might want to talk with a friend, or someone slightly older, or a family member. Sometimes potential helpers may not have the experience or knowledge to provide the advice or support you need. Depending on your situation, you might also want to speak with a professional, like a teacher, counselor, doctor or nurse. If it’s necessary, each of these individuals can point you in the direction of someone specially trained to help you cope with your specific issue. And if you can’t find someone you know to talk to, or talking to someone you know might feel too embarrassing, you might want to try youth helpline Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000, run by Boys Town (for everyone), where trained counsellors will listen to you.

If you’re facing a crisis and need help immediately, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Trained volunteers are available 24/7.

For more information on who can help you might also want to check out the Get Help section of ReachOut.


Last reviewed: May 26, 2009

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    opia

    It took me so long to reach out to someone about my anxiety. I was so scared to tell anyone out of fear they would judge me. Finally, I couldn’t take it and told a close friend…instantly I regretted it, but for no reason. She is so understanding and is helping me recover. It really helps, even if you only tell one person (like I did).
    I can’t thank her enough.

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      ReachOut

      This is really inspiring.  Thank you so much for sharing it with us!

      —The ReachOut Crew

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    bayhawks14

    hi guys yeah i also have big trust issues because my family like lies to me a lot and it is so annoying and i know that they are lying and it makes me feel worse and i just wish that they would stop lying to me but they never do and they say they have never lied to me and I know that they have so they just keep on lying to me and i feel awful like its my fault that they are lying to me so.

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      ReachOut

      It’s rough when you’re not able to trust the people that you’re supposed to be able to trust the most!  Maybe you could start by telling them how much it hurts you when they aren’t honest, and then watch for small improvements.

      This is something you could talk about with your (anonymous) peer group in our forums.  To get there, just click “Forums” at the top of this page, or go to http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      We care!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    rissahalol9959

    I have the hardest time opening up to anyone because of trust issues. I recently got dignosed with a few disabilities and now I get treated way different then ever. I get called disabled. I dont have any one to open up to really, I’ve been a little depressed since my real dad moved to a different state and I have gotten more depressed since every one in my family except my stepdad and real dad, calls me disabled. So I have given up on life because I am not ever going to be a regular teenager because I have bad anxieties and I am super depressed.

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      ReachOut

      So sorry that you’re having these issues.  It’s really good that you’re coming here to talk it over.  You could also go to the forums to talk it over with your peers.  To get there, just click “Forums” at the top of this page.

      You could also call the Your Life Your Voice helpline at 1-800-448-3000, or start a text conversation with them by texting VOICE to 20121.

      It’s gonna get better, rissa!

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    machangg

    Hi , I’ve depressed for 12 yrs now and now I just have had enough. I’m 23 now so it started when I was young. My dad was a severe alcoholic and my mom was very shy and she never told us she loved her and my dad was never around sober to talk like ever. I can’t enjoy any games , I play so bad when I try cause I can’t focus on the game. I can’t do anything now. I’m terrible at work cause I can’t even remember what is said to me like 10 secs ago. I’m very afraid of opening up to people and relationships scare me. Even a handshake is terrifying for me as I just can’t open up to any one like that. I don’t trust anyone with my feelings. I don’t have friends or family that I would ever go talk about this. I might lose my job. I don’t eat sometimes I starve myself and I have had sleeping problems for about 4 yrs now. I lay awake till 2 am or so and am sleep deprived and is very hard for me to go to work the next day. I don’t feel anything in my mind anymore , no emotions ,even porn can’t even distract me like it did before. I still listen to the same sad songs I heared years , some even about 10yrs ago. I wish I could fall asleep and just live my life as a dream. I can’t walk straight sometimes because I’m depressed. I can’t talk to people properly either. Sometimes I fall apart and choke when evens saying the simplest of noce things like ’ ya he’s a good kid ’ or ’ I love my mum too’. I want to change. I can’t go on like this. Please help

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      ReachOut

      Hey machangg. We’re really glad that you are here asking for help. That’s a big and important step. We’d like you to take the next step and call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. It’s free, confidential, available 24/17, and the trained counselors can help you. If it’s easier for you to write than talk, they also have email and live chat. Visit http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/aboutus/Pages/3WaystoGetHelp.aspx for more information.

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