Having difficulty finding the right person for you

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Get to know yourself

Being happy with yourself, your life and your interests can help you feel content, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. Being single offers a great opportunity to get to know yourself better. It offers a chance to follow your interests and try new things. You might want to try spending some time alone doing things you enjoy. This can help you think about what you want if you do choose to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Being happy with yourself helps make future relationships better, as you are more likely to have confidence in what you want from the relationship. It can be helpful to consider what you would want from a relationship beforehand, too.

Meeting someone you like

Everyone has different tastes and interests, and we are all attracted to people for a number of different reasons. Some of these might include:

• The way someone looks;
• Whether we are already friends with a person;
• Common interests;
• Similar ways of thinking about things; or
• A combination of these factors.

If you meet someone that you like, it might be because you are doing things that you enjoy. Chances are that someone you are looking for likes doing the same things as you, so you will have something in common to share. Together you might:

• Play a sport;
• Paint or work on some form of art;
• Volunteer;
• Play an instrument in a band;
• Dance;
• Ride horses;
• Hang out at the same places.

Meeting people can be tough. Try not to be too hard on yourself if you don’t meet someone when you want to. Remember that being single is O.K., and it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.

Some people meet others over the Internet. If you plan to meet face-to-face with someone you met online, it is a good idea to be cautious of giving out personal details like where you live and your phone number. If you decide to meet someone you don’t know, it is a good idea to meet in a public place where lots of other people are, like a movie theater, coffee shop or shopping center. It might also be a good idea to have a friend near by. Some people are not always honest and they might give you false information and might not have your best interests at heart.

Acknowledgment

The information provided here is based on “An Intergalactic Guide to Relationships” A project initiated by Central Coast Health.

Thanks to FPA Health for editing this fact sheet.

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