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Depression: causes, types and symptoms

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What is depression?

Everyone goes through tough times at different points in their lives, and we all feel sad every now and then. It’s important to understand that feeling sad temporarily is very different from being depressed-or having depression.

Depression is a mental disorder that is more severe and longer-lasting than normal sadness. Depression interferes with other aspects of your life, like work, school, or relationships. With the right kind of treatment, many people can overcome it and lead happy, healthy lives.

What causes depression?

Sometimes depression has no apparent cause. However, in other cases, it may be caused by one or a number of factors, which include:

  • Genetics: If there’s a history of depression in your family, it could be that there’s a genetic or biological link that makes the illness more common among your relatives;
  • Biochemical: In certain cases, the chemicals in the brain that control your moods might be out of balance
  • A stressful event: Or chain of events, such as a family divorce or conflict, physical or sexual abuse, bullying, rape, the death of a loved one, or a relationship break-up
  • Personality: Certain personality types are at a higher risk of depression than others. This includes people who tend to be anxious, shy, perfectionistic, or those who have low self-esteem.

Symptoms of depression

People experience depression in different ways depending on the type of depression and individual differences. Common symptoms across all types of depression include:

  • Sadness that won’t go away;
  • Boredom;
  • Feeling irritable or anxious;
  • Loss of interest in usual hobbies and activities;
  • Loss of appetite;
  • Irregular sleeping habits;
  • Unexplained outbursts of yelling or crying;
  • Reckless or risky behavior like alcohol and drug abuse.

Everyone feels or acts like this from time to time. But for people experiencing depression, the feelings might be more severe and constant-they don’t go away over time and they’re not easily explainable.

Types of Depression

According to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, Depression affects about 5% of young people in the U.S. There are different types of depression, each of them have their own symptoms, causes, and treatments. However, it’s important to remember that depression affects people in different ways, and not all scientists agree on how these illnesses should be defined.

Dysthymic disorder is a type of depression that may not completely prevent someone from functioning normally, but keeps someone in a constant low mood. Dysthymic disorders are chronic and last for two years or longer.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that surfaces during the winter months when there’s less natural sunlight. People with SAD typically come out of their depression during the spring and summer months.

Major depressive disorder is a severe form of depression that interferes with a person’s ability to eat, sleep, work, study, or take part in daily activities like he or she normally would. Major depressive episodes usually last at least two weeks. For most people, a major episode of depression can occur only once, but for some, it can recur throughout a person’s lifetime.

Postpartum depression is a type of depression that occurs in new mothers within one month after they give birth. Postpartum depression is likely caused by major shifts in hormone levels after delivery. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Women’s Health, there are several factors that can contribute to postpartum depression, including a history of depression, young age, and little support from family and friends.

Bipolar disorder is a form of manic-depressive illness that can be characterized by extreme “highs” and “lows” in a person’s mood. For more information, check out the Bipolar disorder fact sheet.

If you think you might be experiencing depression, talk to your doctor, counselor or other mental health professional. These professionals can help you sort through your feelings, make a diagnosis, and provide you with the support for managing your depression.

Depression and suicide

For some people, depression may lead to thoughts of suicide. Try to remember that you don’t have to act on these thoughts, no matter how overwhelming they might be. If you’re considering ending your life, it’s important that you talk to someone right away. If you’re in a crisis, you can also call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK to get immediate help.

For more information, check out the Wanting to end your life fact sheet for what you can do to keep yourself safe and get the help that you need. If you know someone who is thinking about taking his or her own life, encourage them to get help. Check out the If your friend threatens to end their life fact sheet for more on how you can help. 
 

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Last edited June, 26, 2015.

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    jrd1996

    I go through little periods of being very tired, depressed, and kind of moody. These episodes usually last a few weeks. The problem is I sacrifice my school life in the process. I am going through an episode right now and I feel like I have hit rock bottom when it comes to my grades. I am handing everything in late if at all. This has happened to me the last few years in school as well, and the marks kind of raise my anxiety levels and I end up having a few large panic attacks. I havent told anyone, including my family, just yet because I feel like I’m exaggerating. Most likely if I do tell my family, they will just shrug it off and not consider it a big deal.

    I need my mother to understand in order to get help, but I don’t know how to explain it to her. We also don’t have a very good relationship at all. We are always getting into arguments on the idea that she never listens to me or my concerns. My parents also just separated a year ago, but they have made it a huge financial battle that I am always in the middle of. The only family member that I felt I could talk to was my brother, and I rarely see him now as he lives with my father. 

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      ReachOut

      This sounds really frustrating.  Would it be possible for you to talk to a school counselor about how things are going, and see if you can get some help through that avenue?  Maybe once your class/grades situation was better, it would make it easier to have a talk with your mom about your needs.

      We care about how you’re doing!
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    Riza

    Hello, my name’s Lydia and I’m seeking for some help. Lately I’ve been feeling down. I feel tired all the time, I’ve lost interest in some things that I used to like, and sometimes I just cry for no reason. Its has gotten so bad to the point that I just stop going to work. Sometimes I feel really anxious, and get irritated really easily. I just feel like doing nothing and just stay in bed all day. I don’t know if I’m suffering from depression, I don’t have any family problems or anything like it; and I’m just tired I want to get my life back to how it was.

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      ReachOut

      Sometimes a person just feels bad, and there isn’t a real “reason” why.  We are so sorry that you’re feeling so awful.  Have you been able to talk to anyone about it?  Talking can help so much.

      One way you can easily talk to someone is to call the helpline at Your Life Your Voice.  By phone, they’re available 24/7 at 1-800-448-3000.  You can also contact them by online chat or email.  Just to to this page to find all the information:  http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/ways-to-get-help.aspx

      You might like to discuss all of this in our peer-to-peer forums, where you can talk it over with people your own age, anonymously of course.  To get there, just click “Forums” at the top of this page, or go to this link: http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php The log in you made here, also works there.

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    depressedornot

    im not sure if im depressed or not, because i kinda want to be depressed…is that normal??? im 13 almost 14 and im bisexual, no problems at home or at school and ok with friends… I want to cut but cant do it bc of my mind, i have tried to take pills but i cant swallow them and i dont understand a thing!!! am i depressed or not???

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      ReachOut

      It sounds like something is going on, with the urges to harm yourself.  Have you talked to anyone about it?  Talking can really help you find a new perspective, and maybe discover why you’re feeling this way.  Is there anyone in your life you could talk to?

      You could definitely talk to the people at Your Life Your Voice.  There are several ways to reach them, by phone, text, email, or online chat.  You can read about all the methods by going to this page:  http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/ways-to-get-help.aspx

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    fastgast123

    i dnt knw if im in depresion or nt. but for a long tie i have been facing quite similiar situations. even if someone speaks little ill about me i get angry, sad, become really depressed and lost in my thoughts. then i reaffirm myself that i will fight back all these feelings but i do much less than what i preach in my mind to me.. i am more of preacher and not doer. i hate this bt cnt help it. i feel like a big pile of shit lying on this earth to whom no one wants to get associated. i dont knw what to do…. i dnt trust people so easily.. even for little matters i get so much hurt.. i feel like failure. i dnt know whats happening with me when actually i knw whats happening with me… i am sinking down and down and down and down… i kept repeating what i said and said.. hope you understand how lost and complex im..

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      ReachOut

      It sounds like you’ve been struggling for a long time.  Is there anyone in your life that you could talk to about the way you’ve been feeling?  It’s ok to admit you need help.

      This fact sheet might give you some good ideas of how to handle it when it just seems like your life sucks:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/when-life-sucks-and-you-feel-like-shit

      If you want to talk it over in our forums, you’re always welcome there.  To get there, just click the word “Forums” at the top of this page, or go here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      We care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    BP

    hello I don’t think I am depressed but I am definitely having a hard time this year that I like someone to talk about monthly but I am hesitating about seeing a psychologist because I think my problems are stupid or my family would not love the fact that I am becoming crazy enough to see a doctor!what should I do? should I see a psychologist or not? I just want somebody to talk to face to face other than my family..

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      ReachOut

      Making the choice to talk to a professional about your issues doesn’t mean you’re crazy!  In many cases, it means you’re pretty smart.  Why not be the healthiest person you can be?

      You can always visit the forums, and talk this over with your peers, anonymously.  To get there, just click “forums” at the top of this page, or go here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php  It’s a supportive place where people just talk things over, and encourage each other. 

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    jakie_1975

    I read this article and I need some help.  For about almost a year I’m guessing, I’ve been feeling really down.  People have told me that I have changed.  I’ve also been sleeping longer then usual.  I used to be a very talkative and cheerful person, but now i barely talk.  I’ve also had these painful headaches.  I have been noticing that I’m not eating alot and the hobbies I enjoyed no longer make me happy.  I cry easily now and I’m just so down.  Its been going on for a year and I want to tell my parents about it.  My grandpa moved back to Mexico a year ago which really brought me down because he is really important to me.  My other grandpa that I never got to met passed away December 2014.  Whats wrong with me? Should I see a doctor?

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      ReachOut

      We are so sorry that you’ve been going through these hard times. It sounds like your friends have noticed—maybe talking things over with them is an option for you.  You also mentioned seeing a doctor, which seems like it might be a really positive step for you.

      Did you know that we have forums to discuss this and anything else on your mind?  To get there, you can click the word “Forums” at the top of the page, or go here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      It’s good that you’re taking positive steps, like seeking help here.  Maybe the next step is to talk to your family, and let them know how much you’re hurting.

      We care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Tony117

    On top of that, I’m no where near the man I should be with my family. I have never, and I would never be physically abusive, but I have been mentally and emotionally abusive. I fell deeply in love, and I still am madly in love with my significant other…but at one time in our early years of our relationship, she started loving another guy. Nothing physical besides holding hands, but…emotionally…and I don’t know what would have hurt more. It hurt me so deep, and I felt so betrayed for years…and during that time I would have such an explosive anger towards her at times. And say very hurtful things that I didn’t mean. I still do at times, but I can honestly admit that I was able to move on from that incident with the other guy. Besides that, I’m not very patient with my child either. Little things get on my nerves, and I end up being too harsh with her. At times I can catch myself, but more often then not, an anger just takes over. Things honestly used to be 20x worse a year and a half ago (those rough years after I was kicked out of high school). It seemed i was always yelling at my lover with an explosive rage. It went to such a bad point that we nearly broke up to see other people. We managed to talk things out, and I have gathered a hold on my temper, but I still find myself saying hurtful things too quickly. I don’t want to be this person anymore. I want to be like my own father, a gentle and loving man. Someone that my partner and child can feel safe with, and depend upon. Not someone who will chastise them for such trivial matters. And since I’m writing away my history anyways, I might as well continue…as much as I don’t want too because I feel like such a loser for coming to terms of how I have been acting, but maybe it’ll help talking about it. When I’m not working, I find myself secluding myself into my video games, like almost as if it is an escape from life. There isn’t much family time, I don’t get as much interaction with my child like I should. She already prefers and loves her mother much more, and you know, I can’t blame her. I have experimented with drugs and alcohol just to alter my conscious, just to..I don’t know..get a change of something. I feel like I’ve been desperately trying to crawl out of a massive hole, and at times, I feel like I am actually succeeding..but then I just fall back into the same pattern and slip to the bottom again.

    I feel bored, and lazy, unable to hold a normal full conversation to strangers, and now even friends. Which leads me to being anti-social and trying to avoid interaction at times. I’ve also had severe insomnia since I was little as well. It’s currently 7:11 am and I’ve been up since 3 am the night before. It’s odd that I feel more calm and able to think more clearly, when I don’t have much sleep…but I can get a full 8-14 hours of sleep and I’ll wake up just going through the same pattern of life. Secluding myself to a video game or working, and likely being a jerk. Right now, I don’t even feel tired, but perhaps that is because of the roller coaster of feelings that has been going through me. I don’t honestly start to feel sad, like depression, until now when I come to terms to the person I’ve been. My eyes were watering towards the end of the last paragraph i wrote before this one, and I hope, I pray to anyone and anything that might be out there, that maybe that means I do care enough to change this. I DO care, and I DO want to change this…but I just can’t get the drive to keep it up. Is this depression? This emptiness and no drive. I’ve thought several times of seeing a councilor, but I just haven’t made the first step…I don’t have much money myself..social interaction and talking about myself makes me feel very vulnerable, and afraid. I’d rather hide behind a computer screen with chat, rather then through a phone or in person.

    See, I’m already making a thousand excuses. I just don’t understand how I can feel like this with so many blessings. There are so many other people with so much worse in their life, and I’m here moaning and groaning about how I can’t stop being lazy. Some people would kill to have the opportunities, support, and love, I’ve been given…why can’t I just be happy with this life and feel the drive to do the things I want to do?

    I want to get my life together before my child is old enough to truly remember who her father was. That is not who I want to be.

    I’m so sorry about this long post that is actual two posts, but I just needed that out. I have been writing in journals acknowledging different times how I feel. It does help, but it doesn’t seem to be helping enough to make a successful, positive change.

    Thank you for taking the time to read this, it may mean more than you’ll ever know.

    -Tony

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      ReachOut

      Hey Tony,

      It’s great that you came here to ReachOut, and really poured your heart out.  Hopefully you feel a little better.  Writing it all out can be really helpful!

      It sounds like you grew up in a really volatile home, and that you’ve carried some of that with you into your relationship.  Old habits die hard, but you can do this.  You love your partner and child, and you can make a better life for them.  It sounds like counseling would be great for you.  Is that something that you could talk to your Dad about?  It seems like you’re very fortunate to have him—he sounds fantastic.

      You could also make a call to the helpline at Your Life Your Voice (1-800-448-3000) and talk things over with them.  I know you said you aren’t sure you can talk about it out loud, but maybe you could try.  They’re really great, and available 24/7.  They have a lot of resources and great ideas.

      Did you know that we have forums to discuss this and anything else on your mind?  To get there, you can click the word “Forums” at the top of the page, or go here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      We are on your side,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Tony117

    Hi there,

    I’m not honestly sure where to begin. Perhaps, maybe, that I feel silly for even feeling the way I do when I have so many blessings to count. That many others have it way off worse then I do, and I should be thankful for many, many things that others don’t. But ever since I could remember as a young kid, I’ve felt this..feeling that comes around quite frequently. An empty feeling. As a kid, I honestly thought it was depression, and I even mentioned it to my Mother once that I felt depressed. I was so young that I don’t think she truly believed me. I quite possibly could have been 6 or 7 years old. She was caring and supportive, and asked if I truly knew what that even meant. She proceeded to tell me about it, and that it was a very sad, sad feeling. The worry already in her eyes, I quickly changed the subject…I didn’t want to worry her, and honestly, I didn’t necessarily feel this “very, very sad” feeling she was describing. I never brought it up again to anyone else (until just very recently to my partner who is suggesting again it could certainly be depression), but that empty feeling was still there through my life. I never acted upon it, or thought specific details…but I would have thoughts of my life ending. Ever since my daughter was born, I would force myself to quickly change my thoughts, and not let myself even get ideas.

    I’m currently 20 years old, and will be turning 21 this upcoming November. I was born into a middle-class, very supportive family. My father has an excellent job, while my Mother was the one who stayed home to take care of my 4 siblings, and myself. She suffers from a thyroid disorder that she takes medication, and throws her emotions off significantly. One moment, she can be the kindest person, and the next she is hostile and mean. My siblings, my father, and I have learned to deal and look past it. At least we try. Besides my father (who is very calm and quiet), the rest of us exhibit my mother’s head-strong, and quick-temper attitudes. So battles happen from time to time. Growing up, I’ve matured and try my hardest to be like my father. Calm and loving. I don’t fight or am nearly disrespectful enough as I used too be with them. Honestly, more time then not, I am beyond grateful for them and want to repay their support and kindness. I am the youngest of my 4 siblings, and I still notice they have hostile attitudes towards my mother. Not really my Dad at all. They see him as a saint, and he is one of the greatest men I have ever lived to meet, but…they treat my Mom like the devil a lot of the time compared to him. Not all the time, but a lot of the time. It was behavior I exhibited myself in my teenage years.

    I don’t even know why I’m going this deep into a background, and typing all this, but I must be honest..for some reason it is already helping just to get this off my chest. Anyways, back to myself. I’m 20 years old, and I have a significant other who just turned 20 yesterday, and our 3 year old daughter. When my daughter was born, my partner dropped out of high school..and I…I was kicked out of high school. Because i barely went, and I would put my parents through awful stress about it. Pretending I was sick, and then even taking the car to ditch school. I’ve had a problem with wanting to go to school ever since I could also remember, but in my junior high to high school years…it was just awful. I was senior when I was kicked out. From there, after a few rough years, I tried to get my life together. We moved to where we live in an apartment that my parent’s are renting for us for a year, just so I can chase my dreams in the acting field. I’ve made very close friends with like-minded artists out here, as well as having success. I was taking classes, doing performances, and trying to get somewhere with my career…and then…this feeling came back again. I ended up stopping in taking the initiative to get myself signed up for classes, I stopped going to my mentor’s workshop…and I just feel no drive anymore. I WANT to be an actor, I WANT to chase my dreams, I WANT to get my a** up and stop feeling so darn lazy, but it just seems like it’s easier to do nothing, be empty, and let time fade.

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    ughhhh

    Okay, so I’m 14, and I have been depressed for like, a year. I would think I have Bipolar, but I don’t have any manic episodes. But my mood changes REALLY quickly. Like, within less of a second. I have self-harmed twice, and the only reason I’m not continuing is because I don’t like it when people ask about my cuts (which are on top of my forearm, not on my wrist). I REALLY need to get a psychiatrist, but every time I bring up needing to get one, my dad either says “I don’t know where to take you” (which is bull), or he says “We’ll do it later” and that was months ago. I can’t tell my family about it bc they are the source of my depression. I tried telling my sister about it, since she went through the same thing, but she just said “We’re here for you”. I think about killing myself weekly, but I always think about my dreams and how I can escape this, so I don’t (and I’m too much of a wuss). No one takes me seriously. I don’t do chatlines or whatever, because, though it would help at the time, it won’t help me in the long run, like medicine can. I would just call 911 whenever I feel this way, but then my family would find out, and they’d get mad bc the trip was ‘unnecessary’ and it would be a waste of money. My brother even basically told me to kill myself once. That’s why I don’t want to tell my family.

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      ReachOut

      It was really brave of you to come here to start talking about things.Talking really helps.  It sounds like you’ve tried to communicate with some of your family members about how you’re feeling, with pretty limited success.  Is there anyone else you could talk to?  Maybe another family member (aunt/uncle, grandparent), a teacher or school counselor, or another trusted adult? 

      What if you took some time to write out how you’re really feeling, including your struggles with self-harm, your suicidal feelings, and everything, and then (at a calm moment, not during a stressful time) talk to your parents about everything.  If you have it all written out, you can refer to what you’ve written, in case you become emotional, or get nervous or upset.

      Although you said you don’t like chat lines, calling a helpline can be really beneficial.  We encourage you to consider calling Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000.  Their helpline is free and confidential, and available 24/7.  Talking to them can bring you new perspective, and they’re staffed by trained counselors who really have great ideas and resources.

      If you’d like to talk things over with your peers (anonymously, of course) feel free to join the forums.  You can get there by clicking the word “forums” at the top of this page, or by going here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php  It would be great to see you there.

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    JustTryingToSurvive

    it hurts so much usually i’m able to not think about it if i immerse myself in the moment of things but even then i just get so turned off from everything and even the littlest things could trigger me into cutting even if i want to stop. Whenever i’m by myself too much it starts to hurt and i start crying and it gets too much because no one is ever there when i need them and i know that i have people who would be there for me but i just constantly feel alone and the only way for me to stop focusing on it is to think about something else but then i get a trigger and it’s too hard to handle. i’ve told my mom but she never does anything and she never has whenever there’s something that i care about or truly think id important she shuts me down or says she’s gonna do it but doesn’t and she never ceases to yell at me for everything even if i didn’t do anything and honestly it feels so good to just get it out of my system but i want help so bad i can’t stay like this it’s slowly tearing me apart but no one seems to notice or care

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      ReachOut

      It sounds like you’re really struggling right now, and we are so sorry about that.  Do you have anyone you can talk to when things get rough?  One thing you could do is make a call to the helpline at Your Life Your Voice, 1-800-448-3000.  They are available by phone any time, 24/7.  They also have texting, where you can send VOICE to 20121 between the hours of 6 pm and midnight (central time) to start a conversation.  They can really help!

      You might like to discuss all of this in our peer-to-peer forums, where you can talk it over with people your own age, anonymously of course.  To get there, just click “Forums” at the top of this page, or go to this link: http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php The log in you made here, also works there.

      This thread has some great tips by our users for coping with self harm:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/showthread.php?50351-What-are-your-tips-to-cope-with-self-harm/

      Keep reaching out… we care about you!
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    heyxx

    I hope you can help me.
    I’m really confused right now and i need some advice. Over the last year or so, i have been experiencing anxiety,and most of the time i’ve been fine, but every now and again, out of nowhere i get terrified of everything.The world seems to crumble and i can’t talk to anyone. I get scared that i am ill, and i’m going to die. I suffer many sleepless nights during this time, and at school i am always quieter, and people get on the wrong side of me very quickly. I don’t know wether or not i’m just being stupid though.

    Thanks

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      ReachOut

      You’re not being stupid! 

      Have you ever had panic attacks, or anxiety attacks?  Is that what this feels like?  You can read about them, and how to manage them, at this link:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/panic-attacks

      Do you have anyone that you can talk to about these?  Feel free to join our forums to talk things over with your peers (anonymously, of course).  You can get there by clicking the word “forums” at the top of this page, or by going here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      You are not alone!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    h8ed

    hi its ash and ever since my brothers death at 17 (4 years ago) i have been depressed. it has not helped that meanwhile, my family is falling apart, i have been self harming for 4 years,starting with scratching myself with a screwdriver several times across the wrist and thighs. it has escalated to where every inch of my arms, legs, and cheeks are covered with either scars or new cuts, needing stiches on several occasions.(put in without anthstetic) i have starved myself for the past 2 months and have overexercize on purpose . i have attempted suicide 2x and on one of those times broke 3 ribs jumping from 6th floor of an apartment. one of my parents is an alcaholic and the other a sex addict, needless to say not the easiest people to confide in. everything i have tried and nothing works. the only friend i have is one who was going through the same thing but now hes in a better place, leaving me more helpless and lonely than b4. going through 4 years of this has made my grades hit bottom, failing 7 out of 9 classes. i never sleep, and mostly never come home until 8 oclock or whenever the curfew is, when an officer picks me up at 1 oclock at night b/c im out on the streets wearing a hood and ripped jeans.even when i do manage to sleep, i have lots of nightmares about the problems that lead up to the killing of my brother and my depression. either that, or dreams about either me or my closest friend commiting suicide.(cant bring myself to call him my half-brother, though i recived a blood transfusion or whatever from him) if anything is seriously wrong which i suspect it is , nobody has noticed i dropped out of school last year after beginning cutting on my face. please help!!!! all the world is falling down on me, and it might just kill me, and save me the trouble of killing myself.

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      ReachOut

      Hey Ash,

      We are so sorry about the death of your brother. That has to have been really hard for you, and you have our sympathies.

      It’s important for you to be able to talk to someone about the things that have been going on with you, and it sounds like your family isn’t the best option for you.  Maybe you could talk to someone else, like a counselor or friend, or some other trusted person.

      You could also contact the helpline at Your Life Your Voice, by calling 1-800-448-3000.  They are available 24/7 to talk to you, and the call is free and confidential.  You can also text them between 6 pm and midnight (central time) by sending VOICE to 20121.

      Feel free to come talk to people in the forums.  Just click on the word “Forums” at the top of this page.

      Please take care of yourself.  Better times are coming.
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    Pikana

    Hi. I’m a 15 year old girl, and my problems are quite complicated(I think). Ever since I moved to my new school I’ve constantly been crying and negative thought, it even includes me going to the bathroom and using the belt part of my bag to scratch/cut my arms. It started a couple of days after I went to the school. It was a completely new school and no one knew each other. On the first day I made a friend (I’ll call her girl1) she was nice to begin with, but it changed. She ordered me about, threatened me and publicly embarrassed me (I also have severe anxiety) then a I made friends with the new girl a couple of weeks later (I’ll call her girl2). Girl1 also started bullying her. Me and girl2 went to the cinema and girl1 knew, called my mum and told her lies causing family problems which made it worse. But my current problems are with girl2. We are friends but I keep getting distant from her. She has gone through more things I have and I don’t know how to help her (I’m such a coward) so she prefers to go to her boyfriend. This also leads to the loneliness. But I can’t stop thinking about it being my fault, I have irregular sleep patterns, I randomly cry, I constantly have negative thoughts and just curl up. This also makes my anxiety attacks worse, at school I have broken down several times but no one sees because I hide away. I feel like I’m just trying to protect myself but….. It makes me feel selfish so uh yeah I don’t know what to do. Also I have given up drawing, painting and dance because of this, I want it to end. Is this depression or am I just overthinking?

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      We are just so sorry that you’ve been going through all of these things.  It’s not right for other people to treat you poorly.  Have you ever received treatment for your anxiety?  It really seems like you’ve been having an increasingly difficult time with it.  Is there anyone you can talk to about it?  A counselor at school, maybe?

      You could talk things over with the people at Your Life Your Voice, by visiting this page:  www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/ways-to-get-help.aspx   There are several ways to contact them, such as phone, texting, emailing, or online chat.  Talking things over can really help, and many people find it easier to do online, or with a “stranger.”

      You could also join our forums here on ReachOut.  To join, just click the word “Forum” up at the top of this page.  We’d love to talk to you there!

      We’re concerned about you!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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        Thank you so much this is going to help a lot!

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    Mints2001

    Hi. I am a girl and Iam 13, iI’m not sure if I am depressed. OVer the course of several months I have been getting more sad.  have been homeschooled all my life, but this year I am going to public high school. I am really nervous and stressed about that. I have a lot of trouble falling asleep at night and sleep really late in the morning. When I am sleeping, all my dreams are nightmares about me getting hurt, hurting myself, or suiside.  the rare occasion I feel good, I tend to do stuff I wouldn’tnormally do. At My house the other day i was feeling good. So we started to play sting pong. I think i only said yes because i wanted to hurt myself. Sometimes i start crying for no reason when i cant sleep. I put on a happy face, because it is really hard to describe how I feel. hhe other day I completely broke down. I was so upset I started hiringmy head on the wall. I Didnt want to see anybody, or talk to anybody. I wanted to not be anybody. I felt worthless, lifeless, empty, hopeless, helpless, and stupid. I felt like nothing i ever did was going to matter. Like i didnt matter. I live in a good home and i have a good family. Please tell me if i am depressed. I really need to know.

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      It sounds like things have been escalating for you, and that you really need to talk to someone about how you’ve been feeling.  Your feelings and emotions aren’t abnormal, but you’re just having a rough time with them right now. It would be good to talk to someone in your life, like a trusted adult, a person from a religious organization, or an older family member. 

      Another thing you could do is to make a call to the helpline at Your Life Your Voice.  They are available 24/7 to talk to you about things, and they can really help.  The number is 1-800-448-3000, and the call is free and confidential.

      It’s OK to tell people when you need help!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    Rj

    Hi ,
    i’m arul 23 years old,i have mental disorders from 8th standard, Now i’m trying to explain about it,listen,when i’m studing 5th,i see the hollywood film “THE mummy” in the climax one person takes all gold in the bag and trying to went out, but in the scene hero,heroine all are went out,but that person locked in that fort,the big doors of the fort will be closed before that person escape.That scene,that terrible scene placed in my heart as a scar,at that day,i think that scene for 100 times,and feel about that locked person.I said to my heart ok its ok,its enough      
    but my thoughts will be for that locked person.i can’t control myself about thinking of that scene.thats the first day in my life i had that heavy pain.One year passed,its not affect me.But,in the 8th standard,that painful thoughts started,till now i’m suffer from that mental ill,not that one scene,i overcome that one scene,but apart from that,i had that “afraid” or “ill” ,it will change my life so much.i can control it sometime,but sometimes i can’t control it.i don’t discuss with my parents, because if they heard this,they feel so much,thats why i don’t tell this to my parents.now its 10 years,but my ill does not go away from me. Reachout, i’m crying at the time writing this,please help me,please.I unable to explain this fully,i have explained half only.this mental ill waste my 10 years life,spoil my studies and my grades will be very low.i think to take mental hospital voluntrily,its right or not.Reachout please reply me.

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      Images we see, like the scene from the movie, can remain with us for a long time, and we are sorry that you have been so upset by this upsetting movie.

      Talking about it can really help. Discussing it with a therapist or counselor might really bring you a lot of benefits.  It’s important to let people know when we need help, or when we are really struggling with something.

      The helpline at Your Life Your Voice can be beneficial for a person who needs to talk.  You can find out more about the ways to contact them by visiting this site:  http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/sitepages/ways-to-get-help.aspx

      Keep reaching out,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    bonjour14

    Hi, I am a 15 year-old girl. I live in the UK and I have recently (2 months ago) moved here from France, which is where I was born and where I grew up. At the beginning of the year (when I still lived in France), I think I suffered from a mild depression, where I felt completely empty and like there was no point in me being in this world. I had suicidal thoughts and never told anyone about it. That lasted about 3 months but stopped after a school trip and I never really looked back.
    I have been in the Uk for 2 months now, without my dad, who still lives in France. For the past couple of weeks, I have been feeling the same way as I did earlier this year, and quite franckly it scares me. I feel fine at school, almost as if I put on this mask of happiness, when I really know that it’s not the case. I kind of put the same mask on at home because I don’t really want to talk about it because I don’t think my mum or sister would get it. It’s when I’m alone that I have a big ball of anxiety in my stumach. I think this is caused by the pressure of doing well in school, moving from one school program to another, I have exams this year so I am working a lot, but the way I feel doesn’t seem to affect my schoolwork or marks, but it does affect my motivation to do homework and stuff. It don’t want to be in any way depressed, I am usually a very happy person that always smiles and I don’t want this smile to be fake anymore.

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    thatgirl13

    Hi, I’m a girl and I think I’m suffering from a mild case of depression but I’m not sure. My mum thinks i’m dropping in school when in actuality i’ve been getting better and better. All my marks for school don’t bother my parents no matter how good they are. Even if i’m 3 marks off full marks in my maths exam they act like it’s good but I know they aren’t happy with it because they hesitate a lot when i ask “Do you think i did good?” Just recently, i had been selected for the NSW State Cricket team and i have not been able to tell my parents because of this: I created a twitter account so that I could follow the one person who inspires me, who makes me want to hold on to my life, someone who can make me happy enough to get up and do something, someone who makes me want to chase my dreams and accomplish them. But because I didn’t ask for their permission they think that I did something very very wrong and that I lie about every single thing which I definitely do not. I had a conversation with my Mum a few hours ago and she yelled at me saying this “HOW DARE YOU FOLLOW OTHERS ON TWITTER! YOU SHOULD BE CHASING YOUR DREAMS!” That’s what hit me hard. I tried explaining to her that iisuperwomanii is the only reason i want to follow my dreams and do something with my life but she wouldn’t listen at all. For a few months now, I have been having constant nightmares about suicide and my family making me want to kill myself. I don’t know why, but it just doesn’t stop. I have self-harmed before but it wasn’t major. I had found a sharp part of a broken ruler and I had scratched myself over and over but I was careful not to draw too much blood. I also have major body image issues. I think i’m fat and because of that, I did not eat at all for a couple of weeks. I hate going out and doing the things I used to love, I have random breakdowns where i just stop and start crying all the time, I can’t sleep because I’m scared of what my mind will be thinking when I’m asleep, my parents think i’m a complete useless liar of a child when i’m really not, my brother hates my guts and he has even tried to hit me a long time ago, I’m always feeling irritable and anxious about something, and I have this cloud of sadness above me that just won’t go away. I really need someone to help me…. please…

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      It’s easy to tell how stressed and upset you are, and we are so sorry about that. It sounds like you’re doing so many good things, but not being recognized much for what you do.  (Congratulations on making the team, by the way! That’s awesome!)  Is there someone that you can talk to about all of these things, like a teacher or counselor at school, a family member, or some other adult that you trust?  It just seems like you need some support right now.

      Your Life Your Voice has some online resources that can help, as well.  You can visit them at this webpage: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/sitepages/ways-to-get-help.aspx  They have 24/7 counseling by phone (1-800-448-3000) and email.  At other times, you can text them or use their online chat system.  That webpage will tell you the times when they’re open.

      We really hope things start to get better for you!
      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Reena

    17 years old, and I think I might have depression I really don’t know. I remember always being so happy at a young age I found ways to keep my self busy all the time, I have never had a good communication with my parents this is do to the fact that my parents have always been to busy for me therefore I always found comfort In my pets. I was happy until 5th grade, by the end of my 5th grade year my dad got deported and no one really wanted to tell me until I found out it was a lot to take in I didn’t know what to do so many thoughts went through my head it was only my sister and my mom and we were left alone. I would see how my mom had problems paying our house and we were really struggling there came a time where I didn’t see my mom at all do to the fact that she had to work so much finally she couldn’t pay the house on her own anymore and he had to move out but we didn’t have anywhere to go and I remember my mom crying but she tried bring strong for us it hurt me so bad to not be able to help her or to understand her every well. None of our family was welling to help us until One of her friends asked us to go live with her so my mother agreed to it but we could take my pets so we had to get rid of them and we took them to the shelter and at that point I felt like I was losing my family it was the worst feeling ever. my mom kept struggling and I felt the need to grow up and I did I was force to grow up and see the world in a different way after so many other thing happening I started drinking and smoking and ever since I feel like something is messing in my live there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss everything I had all the memories just everything and I start to cry out of no where I’m very anxious and I feel so hurt I’m not able to sleep well and I always want to be by my self I tried hurting my self.

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      We are so sorry that these things have happened, and that you’re feeling so down.  It’s got to be hard, losing so much, and not having any control over it.  Do you have anyone that you can talk to about it all?  I’m really glad that you came here, but it’s also good to have someone in “real life” to talk to.

      Another thing that would be helpful is if you’d call the helpline Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000.  The helpline is awesome, and they have great ideas and resources for you.  It’s free and confidential, and they are there 24/7, so you can literally call ANY time.  Add the number to your phone, so you have it when you want it.

      You could also join the ReachOut forums, just by clicking the “Forums” icon at the top of this page, and talk to your peers about this.

      You seem like such an awesome, caring person, and we all want the very best for you.

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Hi, I’m 15 and I wanted to know is this normal for someone my age. basically ever since year 9 in high school I’ve been abit down. it’s because I do lots for everyone I’m always kind and I’m never nasty to no one but most people seem to not like me give me bad looks and talk about me , they have no idea how this feels. I am quite shy so I don’t like to talk to my family about it. but I liked this boy from year nine he was really nice to me and we went out but I was scared so i finished him, I felt so bad I didn’t know what to do but from then we were friends and I still like him I realised it was a mistake so he found out I still liked him and he’d be so nasty about it like I would reply to him saying I like you still and he would said aww ok I don’t . Like blunt and nasty. Ever since he does little things that lead me on and kisses my cheek when he was apparently ‘drunk’ but he knows what he’s doing. It’s been like 2 and a half year this and I feel worthless like why do I even try. I get the thoughts of thinking what’s the point in life it’s terrible. sometimes I get really happy like way to happy than normal and then ill go to my room and ill end up going to bed crying .... I think to myself why am I happy there’s no reason to be happy then I go down hill and get depressed its not just that boy it’s all the other little things. School I’m failing in that I won’t get enough GCSE to get to college which means I won’t get a job so my life’s going to go nowhere , I play guitar I jut hope my dreams come true for being in a band :(. I have ‘hurt’ myself in the past I need something that takes the pain away there are not bad just it helps I don’t know what to do but I’m just getting worse i guess.

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      Hi Nirvana,

      I am sorry you’ve been feeling down. It sounds like you’ve gone through a rough patch recently, but I want you to know you’re not alone, and this will pass. You can get through this, and there will be happier and healthier days again. I’m glad to see you reaching out for help, please keep doing that. If you have friends or family near you that you can talk to, please let them provide support too.

      Have you talked to any teachers about the bullying that is going on? That might be something that can provide relief from that situation. I’m sorry your ex-boyfriend is treating you poorly, I hope you know that you deserve better than that. Being heartsick makes it seem like there’s no one else but trust that there will be others and they will treat you better than that.

      Please don’t harm yourself, talk to someone. If you don’t have anyone you feel comfortable talking to, please try our youth helpline Your Life Your Voice the number is 1-800-448-3000. You can call any time day or night, any time you need or want. I want you to write that number down and call it any time you feel down or the urge to harm yourself.

      Know that we care about you, if you need to talk more please consider joining our forum community.

      Rachel
      ReachOut Crew

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    Caipix11

    Hi. Im a 14 year old girl and i dont know what type of depression i am because, im having trouble with school and my parents arent any help, they always fight and dont care about our studies. At school i have realy good friends and they are always there for me. Now that im in high school, i take the bus to get home. But i always feel unhappy and i dont like to talk to my friend or other people in the bus. When i get home also, my grand mother always asks me whats wrong and i dont kniw what to say because its very complicated. So could you help me?

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      Have you ever talked to anyone about this, like maybe a school counselor?  Talking can help.  You could also make a call to the youth helpline Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000 and have a chat with them.  It’s free and confidential, and they’d have some ideas and resources for you.  It’s hard when you don’t really have the words to express your feelings—but it doesn’t change the fact that the feelings are there.

      Another avenue to talking things over is for you to talk to others in our forums.  You can just click the “forums” button at the top of this page, or go here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/

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    halfwaypoint

    I’m going through a really bad breakup. Everything reminds me of him, it’s super hard for me to get through the day.. I just want to hide from the world and cry all day. One of my close friends told me to never talk to him again, and my other best friend is always busy and rarely has time for me.. I dont know what to do anymore :(

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      Breakups can be so hard! We are so sorry that you’re having such a rough time.  Sometimes it can really help if you try to distract yourself by trying new things, and by staying busy.  Do you have someone you can talk to about the way you’re feeling?  One thing you could do is to talk to your peers in the ReachOut forums, by going here: http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php  Or, you can just click the “forums” button at the top of the page.

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    pianoturtle334

    Hi I’m 16 and I’m just really sad, but I can’t understand why. I’ve never been bullied, I’ve never had anything traumatic happen to me, and everything in my life should be great. I show some signs of depression but to be depressed seems to illogical. Also, all the signs I show have been present for as long as I can remember (for example: crying randomly, being irritable, anxious, stressed out easily). The only recent change is that my self-esteem has been going downhill since I moved to where I live now. I used to be really confident in myself, but when I moved I thought that all of my friends secretly hated me or just like my twin sister so much better. But I was still confident in my intellectual abilities. But since I started high school I feel like I can’t do anything right, like everyone is always better than me at everything. I used to be almost prodigiously smart and I feel so much pressure to be so extraordinary but I know logically that I’m just not that special anymore. I’ve tried blaming other people for my low self-esteem or extreme stress/pressure but no one has forced it upon me - it’s been all me. I tried telling my mom that I was sad, hoping that she would just be a little nicer to me (my family used to be super close but now we’re just not anymore) and now she thinks that I’m clinically insane. I just wish things would go back to normal.

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      There really isn’t any “logic” to depression, unfortunately. Have you ever talked to anyone about the way you’ve been feeling? Talking can really help so much!  This fact sheet will give you some information about the benefits of talking about issues:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/how-talking-to-someone-can-help

      Another thing you can do is make a call to the youth helpline Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000. They’re available 24/7 to talk to you about this or any other issue.  The helpline is offered by Boys Town (which isn’t just for boys!), and it’s free and confidential.

      We really hope things start to improve for you!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    12345

    I think I might have depression I’m not sure but I am always board and down and are kinda sleep deprived but I don’t want to see the school counsellor and I’m missing a lot of days at school but don’t want to see the counsellor because I won’t want anyone continually connected and what kind of gets me happy is music so I’m starting a band but I don’t want her to think I’m crazy. But my parents have already got me an appointment with the school counsellor. What do I do? Cause I’m not 100% sure I have depression but my mum and dad are kinda splitting up they say they need space to figure it out, I spend 2 weeks in a caravan with my dad and he drops me to school and the other 2 I spend in the house with mum

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      It’s really good that your family is supporting you and wanting to assist you in getting some help, but we can see your hesitancy to link that help so closely with your day-to-day school life.  Could you explain this to your parents, and ask to see a counselor that isn’t from your school?

      Hey, on a side note, you might really like the ReachOut Forums, which are located here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php  They’re more interactive, and you’ll get responses, encouragement, and support from peers. Would love to see you there!  The same login works in both places—just click the “Forums” link at the top of the page!

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Mintyfresh0

    I’ve been feeling depressed for about 7 months now. Twice I’ve considered calling childline. When I cut my nails I consider cutting myself but I don’t have the guts. I cover up my personality with a happy-go-lucky one and I have a fair few friends because of this. But recently I’ve been feeling like I don’t matter anymore since my ‘friend’ was really rude to me. I get anxious about my grades, don’t sleep that well, randomly start crying and always seem to be bored. Even though loads of people are super-nice to me, I feel like my life will fall apart at any second. I accidentally went out with a player and am now going out with his best friend. He’s being pretty nice to me, but I feel like it’ll shatter any second. I have a slight feeling this might explain it since he has been out with my best friends and I can’t help but feel weird around him.
    My best friends talk behind my back and I feel like they’re saying rude things about me since I have had a lot of arguments with them.
    I don’t want anyone to know so put on a fake smile. But I also want the people I trust to know, which is ironic since I can’t trust anyone. I feel that if I ask my parents to have counselling they’ll just think I want to have attention.

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      That’s a long time to deal with depression without any help!  You said you have considered calling the helpline—why not just do it? You can always call the helpline Your Life Your Voice at 1-800-448-3000.  They’re run by Boys Town, and talking to them is free and confidential.  There are some other ways to contact them listed here:  http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/aboutus/Pages/WaystoGetHelp.aspx  Talking to someone is really important.  This fact sheet will give you some information about reasons why:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/how-talking-to-someone-can-help 

      We really hope you are able to take the steps necessary to start moving toward getting better!  We care about you.
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    groevro

    hi,
    from 1 1/2 years i have been getting crappy marks,once i was a very good student.i don’t want to talk to my friends about school cuz those who were dumber than me are improving,i just feel sorry for myself and wallow in misery.i don’t do work I am supposed to do,i just don’t wanna do anything…I am constantly frustrated and get overwhelmed about how i became dumb and worthless i have become…i used to be so active.i don’t want to study ,i don’t care about anything…and I am lacking self confidence now…i keep second guessing myself…i just wanna be alone..i don’t trust myself enough to be success full anymore…i want to be myself again…i wanna feel again.

    I don’t know if this is depression or laziness.I dont know if i should just slap myself and get on with it.
    i just wanna overcome these obstacles and achieve my full potential…please help.

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    ttrl

    hey there!

    i really need help, i think i have been depressed my whole life, i dont remember the last time i was really happy, my parents broke up when i was just two..and they parted separate ways, i moved to the USA when i was 5, mom was never home..i have two older brothers that made my life hell, we moved often..until four years ago when i was 14 i moved back to my birth country this is when my depression really hit the worst, my brother and i moved down here without my mother she stayed in the USA, so i had to start my life again i had to make new freinds start school learn my countries culture, way of living, and even the language itself..it was so hard, i think it was the hardest thing i have ever been put through, a year ago i met my dad at my grandmothers funneral i just recently started talking to him, i am now 18 i have a good job and im in college i was renting an apartment with my brother, i had not seen my mom for these four years, she just came 3 months ago and shes living with us..i matured alot these years im always keeping myself busy working or at school, i stay focus on my life goals, i dont go out with friends, i dont date it takes away lots of my time, and its funny because everywhere i go i seem to be the popular person, everyone tells me im pretty, funny, nice, and i guess i am, but deep down im so unhappy my life is so unstable, im becoming unstable myself i cant seem to make a decision and stick to it, i forget everything, i get these episodes of confusion of just wanting to drop out of school leaving my job and just everything, i cant understand why if my life is just to work out for me, i cry over the smallest things im so sensible, ive been to two different phychologist and they both tell me that im a very mature and strong person and that i need to live my life a little more (my age), but they dont tell me anything i dont already know, everyday can go by just fine until i lay in bed at night i feel so lonely, sad and just tired of everything. some times i can just start crying anywhere, i can be at work and start crying at school ay church at the gym, im so tired of this..i love my life so much just beacuse all the things ive seen and been through that have made me this person, becuase i know im strong and very independent and im always there for others, but i hate it just becuase of the way it had to go down because its been so hard and because i know its just begining..

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      We’re so sorry that you’ve been feeling so low.  It sounds like you were pushed into independence faster than you were ready for it, and now you feel a lot of pressure. Why don’t you give a call to the Boys Town Hotline, and talk to them about things?  It’s free and confidential, and the number is 1-800-448-3000.  You could also email them by going to this page: https://secure.yourlifeyourvoice.org/aboutus/Pages/ContactForm.aspx  Someone will respond directly to you. 

      It’s pretty easy to see how people end up admiring you for all your accomplishments, but it’s also OK for you to just be “normal” sometimes.  Don’t forget that!

      We care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Sandman

    I have been struggling with depression since i was around 13. I am now 17. i have recently contracted a bone eating disease in my head, and have been stressing out about it. The stress has been causing my depression to sky rocket and my mood to become darker and darker. I have reviewed depression sites before and have chosen three of my most trusted friends to talk to and try and get their help. Yet while understanding my situation and giving me advice they have yet to continue talking to me and now ignore me because they said my depression drove them away. I cant help that I am depressed and they feel that I can just get over it in a span of 1 day. I have lost friends and loved ones now due to this and its just further increasing my loneliness and my depression. Any help on how to fight this and how to get my friends back, or at least get them to understand and keep trying to help me. I feel like a lost cause, and them doing that to me just makes me feel like its all the more true. Please help.

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      Sometimes it seems like friends just don’t know what to say, or how to help. They might want to help, but just be out of their league.

      Two suggestions: First, you could call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. They are available 24/7 to talk to you about whatever you need. Second, you could join the ReachOut forums, and talk about this there. There are a variety of topics, and you could post a message there, and get some feedback from your peers.  The link is: http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php

      We wish you the best!
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    cl_98

    I told my mom I am depressed and angry, and she told me it is just my age.  I am 15.  I understand why she thinks that; after all, I have a good living environment, I do not get bullied, and I have had no traumatic event happen to me.  I don’t even understand it, so I understand why she doesn’t either.  However, I know that I am depressed.  I have no doubt in my mind.  I don’t even care if she recognizes it, or if anybody does, I just want it to go away.  Does anybody have any advice?  I need a way to cope or cure it naturally, since medication and psychiatric treatment is not an option.

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      Hi cl_98. We encourage you to keep trying to talk to your mom. She may not know much about depression and may need you to help educate her. Tell her you’d like to see a doctor. If you are depressed, you need to be diagnosed. Depression isn’t something you can just snap out of or treat yourself. If you need someone to talk to, you can always call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. It’s free, confidential, available 24/7, and not just for boys.

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    BayBaiiJuice

    hi I am 13 and I feel my mom doesn’t care about my depression and she thinks it a joke please also give me a way to help my depression I feel worse and worse everyday and nobody cares! I even have breakdowns in front of my mom but she doesn’t do anything but sit there and let me cry!!!! please help me

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      It must be very frustrating to be in this situation, and feel like your mom just doesn’t hear you. I want you to know that we hear you, and we’re sorry that you’re going through this rough time. One thing that might be really helpful for you is to call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000, and just talk to them about your options, and what to do next. They’re a free and confidential hotline, and they’re available 24/7 to talk to you.

      Keep reaching out!
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    StarDiva

    i have major depression and i go to a therapist and a psychiatrist, but sometimes it aint enough you know!

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      Hey StarDiva. Hang in there! Some days will be easier than others. The important thing is that you’re getting help.

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    ChinkYMB

    I’ve always been depressed since my granny died back in 2006 and it’s been effecting me and my attitude that I show towards others. I know that it’s been hella long since she passed, but it still makes me angry because I always blame myself for not answering the phone whenever she was trying to get ahold of me to go with her to the doctors office (I was busy doing other things)(not important). I feel like if I would’ve been there to be with her on that day, she would’ve still be here with me or I would’ve seen her on her last days. I’m currently in a relationship and me and my girlfriend will make a year in December, the day after Christmas. And I’ve been lately since, well since february been angry at her with my attitude and doing wrong (not cheating or anything)(but been friendly with other females) it’s like every time we get into an argument, I get angry (she’ll tell me how worthless I am and call me out my name or down me, evening putting her hands on me)(slapping me in my face when she’s angry)(knowing that she loves me with all her heart and I know that she’ll necer hurt me like cheat on me)(all that and start to throw or punch things around me (NEVER her because I promised myself that I would never placed my hands on her because I would never be like my dad) I don’t know what to do, because I feel like the way I am when we argue knowing that if my granny was still around. I know if a fact that I wouldn’t be acting the way I am now. What should I do to control my anger and not lose the important person in my life right now (my girlfriend) because she’s been there for me since day one.

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      It sounds like you’re going through a lot of things, and we’re really sorry about that.  Grief can look different for different people, and it can take much longer for some people.  Read this fact sheet about experiencing grief:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/experiencing-grief

      It’s important that you find someone to talk to about the things that have been happening, and the way you’ve been feeling. It seems like you know it’s not very healthy, for you or your girlfriend. But talking to someone can help, and that’s a good first step.  You can always call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.  They’re great to talk to, and they’re available 24/7.

      It’s admirable that you restrain yourself from hitting, but it’s not right for you to be hit either. You don’t deserve that, and that’s not a safe situation for you.

      We care about you, and wish you the best.
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    popi2232

    I was in an relationship in my smer vacations . We talked all day long but then suddenly we just stopped communicating. After all that i moved on.and had a fight with my best friend and he just does not want configure things out. And he has ended up with breaking my friendship with my 3other friends including my ex. I just want everything to get normal but then nothing works . I keep blaming my self for all of it and get really depressed. I can’t take it anymore. All insults and stuff. Its all just too much. I can’tt handle it. And i can’t talk to my parents they will just make matters worse. I hate my life now it sucks . I want to be strong enough to fight for myself. I don’t know . Im ready to do anything to get my ex back and settle things out with my friends.. I end up cutting my wrist . Trying to harm myself. I feel like adead person something inside me is killing me and it hurts bad. Very very bad.

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      Hi friend,

      We can read in your words how much you’re struggling, and we’re so sorry about that. Is there someone in your family, or another trusted person or friend, that you could talk to about these things?  Talking can really help. This site has a number that you could call to talk to someone in your area:  http://www.aasra.info/  Sometimes a stranger has the best perspective on a situation.

      You might also find this fact sheet to be helpful:  http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/when-life-sucks-and-you-feel-like-shit 

      It’s hard when your friends are rejecting you. We’ve been there, too. Sometimes you just have to give a situation some time to heal.

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Melloniche

    I have seasonal affective disorder (SAD), and I understand what is causing it. I’m originally from southern Florida. I moved a couple states north almost 9 years ago, and every year the winter months have been awful to me. The depression also took a toll on my ability to socialize and learn at school. I’m in college now, and this year has been the worst it has ever been due to the lack of a prior sunny summer. It was constantly raining or cloudy all summer. It was sunny for about a week out of the whole summer. I’m scaring myself because it has never been this bad. I usually have little things that help, but they aren’t doing any good now. I feel out of control of my emotions (sporadic, unprovoked crying), been having trouble sleeping, and when I do get to sleep I have awful stress dreams. The only relief from this is the time I spend with my boyfriend. I know how that must sound, but he has a very happy and energetic personality. Being around his euphoric atmosphere makes me feel so much better. But I really need answers on how to deal with the depression because we both have very independent lives, so we don’t see each other often enough to make the depression bearable. Plus I don’t like to rely too much on other people. Should I exercise more? Are there any types of foods or vitamins I should consume? I don’t believe in medications. I just know that my physical health ties in with my mental health.

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      Hi Melloniche. That is a great question! Some things you can try on your own are making your environment brighter by opening the blinds, trimming tree branches that block sunlight, sitting by the windows, going outside more, and exercising regularly. You could try adding mind-body exercises to your routine such as yoga and mediation. Try to socialize more outdoors and maybe even take a little winter trip if you can. If you’re ready to see a doctor, there are treatments available for SAD including light therapy, ionized-air administration, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and medication. Best of luck!

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    Shaz

    I been hurting myself for 5 years sometimes i feel really low in my body image the way i look and because people in my family often judge me and have negetive comments towards me, I am often very tired and sleep for long i get moody and 90% of the time i wanna be left alone i used to play netball run and other things but in more recent years i hardly leave the house, i cry sometimes for no reason and when im feeling really down on myself i cut [...] is nothing compared to the pain i feel inside. my mom and dad have been seperated most of my life and i never see my dad could that have a contributing factor as to why i inflict self harm on myself? please help me.

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      Hey friend,

      It sounds like you have just been having an all-around hard time lately.  We’re so sorry about that.  Do you have a friend or trusted person that you could talk to?  This site has some options for emailing people for help:  http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/default.aspx  Or this one might be a more local option:  http://minotaur.marques.co.za/befrienders-sa/main.htm

      It seems like you’re having a harder time coping with things, and it would be a good idea for you to contact someone for help, as soon as possible. We are concerned about you.

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    tides14

    I’m not sure whether or not I officially “have depression,” I’m not even entirely certain what constitutes as official depression. I have read all of the info on it that I can, and the symptoms sound familiar. The low feelings are not constant, I’m not sad every waking moment. But I haven’t felt right for a long time, and it has just been progressing. More often than not I am now feeling sad, angry, stifled, numb, empty, cold, unmotivated, tired, lazy, stupid, ungrateful, guilty, ashamed, lost, lonely, not good enough, etc. Basically not myself. It’s hard to prevent negative thoughts. I have difficulty sleeping at night, it takes forever to fall asleep and when I do the night is restless and filled with nightmares or disturbing dreams. Eventually I may get to sleep, only to find I have overslept again. It gets harder to get out of bed in the morning. I have no motivation to go to school, even though I know I should. Nothing supremely traumatic has ever happened to me. I have been fortunate, and honestly lived a charmed life. Which contributes to my guilt over being here and feeling the way I do. I don’t like complaining. I’m not trying to get more attention. I feel bad and don’t know what to do, only that I think I need help. I don’t deserve to feel depressed. I have a wonderful family, great friends, and a good life. I used to be a straight A student, but throughout high school my grades have plummeted, and I have failed 3 classes. I have always been, and remarkably continue to be seen as by some, an “over-achiever.” It’s amazing how well a person can hide what’s really going on, how well they can pretend. At school I am the one who is there to help people going through rough times. I am the advocate, the club president, the actively involved student, the social person, the leader, the example. I am the person that others call up at 3am to talk to. But more and more often I want to call someone up at 3am, and be the person who needs help, and asks for it. In my family I am the well-rounded one, ambitious, and aiming high. I’m the one they don’t have to worry about. But I now admit that I am also the one who likely needs help, the one who feels numb, doesn’t care anymore, struggles to get up in the morning, and perhaps only does to escape the nightmares found in sleep. This last week has been bad. I have been skipping classes for some time, but never as much. I didn’t go to school this week. I missed important things, and didn’t care. Tomorrow morning is Monday and I still haven’t begun to make up all that work. And I lied about it to my parents. The only “reason” I could give for my behavior is to say I didn’t feel like it. My motivation is gone. I’m tired of feeling so cold and hollow, I’m a mess and I know I need to get my act together. I wish I knew how. It is extremely difficult for me to reach out and ask for help. I believe I may be depressed, this isn’t just a moment. It’s an ongoing cycle. Maybe therapy would help, and I know I should talk to someone about this. But I don’t know how to do that. On one hand I feel weak for feeling so down when I have no good reason to; on the other I feel weak for not stepping up and asking for help already. I don’t want to speak with a school counselor and change the image he has of me; I’m not comfortable with my doctor; My friends can’t fix this; and my parents have other things to worry about. If I talk to them they may just say I’m a teenager, and it’s normal. They likely won’t recognize the severity of this. Which is partly my fault, I’m a great pretender. I easily deny my own feelings, but I just can’t anymore. But as soon as I don’t feel awful, I easily brush off all the negativity I have been feeling. I’m great at being in denial. I second guess myself and wonder if it ever was that bad, but it gets worse again and the cycle continues. Apologies for such a lengthy comment, I just needed to put this out there. Any suggestions?
    P.S. I’m rooting for all of you out there, you are all lovely, beautiful people and you deserve to be happy. Best of wishes, and good luck.

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      Hey friend,

      It really sounds like you’ve been struggling lately, and we’re so sorry about that! Have you considered that your efforts to try to hide your struggle might be contributing to the problem?  Seems like it would help you a lot to just let it out, and be real with someone.

      One thing you could do is call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. You don’t have to be in “crisis” to talk to them. They would have some good ideas for you about what to do next, and how to get some help before this spirals out of control.

      Another idea would be to visit the ReachOut forums at http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php .  The forums are a great place to talk about what’s going on, and get some encouragement and support from your peers.  That might help a lot, for you to talk with peers, but peers that you don’t “know” and see every day.

      We’re glad you reached out, so things can start to improve.
      —The ReachOut Crew

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    lillokita

    Hi, my name is Eva I had been beat up when I was younger I started cutting myself. Im going to school right now its hard I don’t have no friends I don’t talk to nobody I feel lonely I cry over lil things I told my parents I had depression but they didn’t care me and my dad don’t get along and my sister we hate each other we fight. But I burst in to tears over lil things or wht people say. im happy sometimes but most of the time I just want to lock my self in the room just be left alone im tried of everything I just wish I can just be gone theres always bullshit going on or people say things to me negative things put me done i have no1 to talk to everybody hates me i have no one to turn to my so called friends dont even talk to me anymore no one. i have so sadness and anger i always think that how it is for me to not being around so everyone can forget about me. i wish i wasnt never born. i tell god take me away or make sumthing happen so ill be dead by tomorrow life isnt worth living.

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      Hey friend,

      What seems most important right now is that you talk to someone about how you’re feeling.  Is there someone you can talk to?  A friend, trusted adult, school counselor, a teacher?  One thing you can ALWAYS do is pick up the phone and call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.  They’re available 24/7 to talk to you, and the hotline is free and confidential. 

      Another thing you could do is log in to the ReachOut Forums here:  http://us.reachout.com/forums/forum.php  The forums are full of people just like you, everyday young people who struggle with various issues, but who want to get better, and want to encourage each other. 

      We wish you the best, and hope you’ll take the next step. 

      Take care,
      The ReachOut Crew

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    Fallenangelskylar

    I have been sexual assaulted a month ago I get panick attacks, anxiety, and I also have been more depressed. I also have been thinking about ending my life due to the stress from school and what happend. I just can’t take stress anymore..Is this normal?

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      Hi Fallenangelskylar. We are really sorry about what’s happened to you. It is normal to experience a wide range of emotions after something like that. Have you talked to anyone about it? We recommend talking to your parents or another trusted adult and seeking professional mental health help. If you need to talk to someone right away, please consider calling the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) at 1-800-656-HOPE or the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. Both are free, confidential, available 24/7, and not just for boys.

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    s2007

    hey i’m 24 years old guy and i’m very sad person i used to love a girl but she broke up with me 2 years ago i really loved her she never did as i found out later because she was with someone else while she was with me i found out later and she got engaged and married to another guy now i’m sad cause i still so much in love with her she never did it i can’t see other people and i don’t want to i think about her form the moment i wake till the moment i sleep i never complin or talk about to my close friend i just seem tough but i’m sad i always think about ways of dying right before i sleep i always say god i wish i never wake up tomorrow or i wish i die in a car accident or somehow fast all of this because i feel so hurt so sad now she is gone for ever and ever i wish if i could stop thinking about her and i think of her in every place i go and all the time i just feel sad for the past 2 years and i wish if god just reach out and take me away i.ve dated other read books and so many things to get over it but sadness is just killing me

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      Hi s2007. We’re very sorry that you’re in so much pain. Breakups can be very hard. Sometimes the end of a relationship can give you space and time to learn more about yourself and spend time with other people. We encourage you to talk to someone about your feelings, someone you trust such as a fried, family member, a counselor, or mental health professional. If you need someone to talk to right away, please call the Boys Town Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.

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